I've noticed that a lot of people here get manipulated and don't realize it until after. So here's a list of common manipulative phrases to recognize:
“That's not what I said.”
You cannot tell me what I heard and if it's not then what did you say?
“You shouldn't feel that way.”
You have no right to tell me how to feel.
Don't tell me what an overreaction is.
“You made me do this.”
I can't make you do shit.
“I said I was sorry! What more do you want from me?”
I'm supposed to automatically forgive you? Nah.
“You're too sensitive.”
Sensitivity is a good thing. Get some.
“You'd do it if you loved me.”
Don't tell me how to love you, I'm not doing shit I don't want to.
And what if I am? There's nothing wrong with that and I trust my instincts.
“Why are you so dramatic?”
Define dramatic, is it a synonym to right? There's nothing wrong with my reaction.
“We shouldn’t talk about this now because…”
Well when should we? Because you clearly don't want to address the issues here.
“I love you and will do anything to make this work.”
Seriously? Using the fact that you love me to try and force me to stay with guilt tripping?
“Your friends are a bad influence on our relationship.”
No, you're just jealous and want to isolate me away from everyone.
“I don’t remember that happening.”
The lies you tell. Then what happened huh?
“Are you stalking me?”
I don't know am I? Should I be?
“That is your problem. Not mine.”
If you're fucking with my head then thats gonna be a you problem when we're over with.
“We can talk when you stop acting crazy.”
I'm always crazy, like bitch
“How many times do I have to say ‘Sorry’? Geez!”
Until you mean it? Tf?
I don't care how many times you tell me I'm wrong on this because these are literally proven by psychology and I can give you my sources. So, I hope I could help someone and watchout for these please <3
Disclaimer: I am in no way a psychologist, I used some of these from experience and others from psychology websites. I am doing this to help the MPPC community!
I'll do more of these for friendships if you guys want! Just let me know!
Please keep in mind that some of these can be toxic, but they also couldn't be, look at the situation first before putting it that way.
Stay safe and stay away from toxic relationships! Learn when to walk away. If you don't like the things they do or lose feelings its okay to leave! Remember, relationships are built on trust and if you don't trust them then you shouldn't be dating them! If you feel like you can't leave, talk to someone, I am here and so are @Global-Moderators and probably almost everyone. We're glad to have you here, protect your mental health first!