@xay-is-hot-stfu I agree with what Shazz said completely, which he said it perfectly. There are stuff I’d like to add in too :)
When being friends with someone who is self harming, it obviously takes a toll of responsibility. Do you tell, or do you not tell and respect their wishes? Staying loyal to a friend to keep their trust is tempting when you love them very much, and you only want them to feel safe with you. But there definitely are points when someone needs a sort of help that is beyond you. And when it comes to her life… Definitely make sure you take care of them. But what I’d suggest is be very gentle with this friend. Make sure they know that you just want them to find help. Not everyone wants the “find a therapist” bandaid to be stuck on the broken leg, but there are some really good and understanding therapists out there who specialize in all sorts of categories.
When a lot of people decide to self harm, there are a number of reasons why. But something I found in just about every case is that people just want to be understood and believed. Whether it’s about something they’re personally going through, or a situation that is happening to them Physical wounds are hard for an outside person who has never been in those shoes to understand, but maybe your friend can find comfort that she isn’t alone, and she has you who understands her.
