The Generosity Series: 18
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Forgiveness Introduction
It may not be easy to forget someone’s wrongdoings, and honestly, you shouldn’t always forget them, but it’s definitely easy to forget how to forgive. I get the same question nearly every time I ask someone if they’ll forgive someone: “Why should I forgive them when they’ve hurt me so much?” I understand it’s very hard to let people be forgiven when all they do is hurt you. But I think people forget that forgiveness isn’t, ‘I forgive you, now let’s have things go back to normal.’ Forgiveness is willingness to grow and work forward away from someone’s mistakes. You don’t have to feel like forgiving someone means that you have to pretend they didn’t hurt you, and have to emotionally and physically move on. In the long run, forgetting what people have done to you without talking about it will just cause more pain. That’s not actually forgiving someone. That’s letting yourself become a mat. Sure, it might feel nice to have life go back to “normal”, but later on, you might actually feel unforgiveness even after you say the words, “I forgive you.” On the flip side, you might not want to forgive because you don’t want to become a mat. But there’s a way to forgive in a healthy way. The most important part of forgiving is to work on making sure someone’s not repeating the very thing they did to hurt you. There’s a whole process for forgiveness… -
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