a lot has happened this month
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why the fuck is my dad divorcing my mom and moving out in less than 2 weeks? and why can’t i feel bad? i think it’s because i’m a kid and can’t process how serious this is, but that’s an excuse according to my parents. i honestly think that they divorced because of me. They started having big arguments ever since I was born. maybe it was my fault.
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@why It’s better not to feel sad. My parents keep saying they’ll get a divorce but never do, and that hurts enough. The fact your parents are actually divorcing yet you feel nothing makes me question how weak I actually am lmao.
I’m sorry you’re going through that either way, I hope things get better
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@Creati132 I know, but the fact that I feel nothing and that last argument made me feel like i wanted to throw up, is making me feel like I’m happy they’re divorcing, but i’m not happy that they are divorcing. I don’t think you’re weak, because getting scared of your parents divorcing is honestly the worst feeling.
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@why thats how i feel when my parents fight and it makes me happy when my dad leaves bc he puts us down so much
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@why said in a lot has happened this month:
that last argument made me feel like i wanted to throw up, is making me feel like I’m happy they’re divorcing, but i’m not happy that they are divorcing.
Idk what to tell you there. Personally, I think it’s you not knowing how to react to this certain situation. It’s hard to figure out what to feel in these kind of things. You have a lot of emotions but you’re not sure which one to show or which one is the true way you feel about it. But idk, I ain’t a professional XD
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@why Never blame yourself for your parents not being able to get along. That’s not something you can control. That’s their issue that they couldn’t solve. And it’s certainly not because of you. It might feel weird that you can’t feel bad about it all right now, but that’s okay. It’s not an excuse for anything. Perhaps you haven’t processed the situation till you feel its effects. Like not having your dad around. I don’t know what not processing this event “excuses,” but it’s not like putting this huge event in your life so fast is going to make you feel it any faster. I’m sorry this is happening, and I wish there was something I could do to personally help. But for now, please at least don’t blame yourself. You’re only their child. It might feel like you’re in the middle of your parents and having one leave is all on you. But parents have deep problems that even we don’t understand sometimes. And if they’re arguing, I’m here to tell you that you are not the cause. I don’t know what they were arguing over, but even if it was about you, it’s not your fault anyways. You’re just living your childhood. And if your parents don’t work out, that’s just bad luck on you. But no one’s to blame for bad luck.
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@why honestly, I could relate to this. i remember always being scared then not feeling sad when they threatened to call it off. So I completely understand what you mean. like- you KNOW you’re not happy with it, and you KNOW that you’d prefer them to be together, but it’s hard to really process the severity and what it can do at the same time, and understand your emotions towards it. And it sucks knowing you can’t feel bad when you probably should, but it’s also good that it doesn’t really have an effect on you at the moment and that you feel neutral about it, so you don’t feel too sad. but you should never EVER blame yourself for your parents doing this. It is not your fault in any way shape or form and whether they have or not, they shouldn’t say it was or is because of you. I am extremely sorry that you have to go through this, and I wish the best for you and your family. :( <3
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thanks for all the support. i really appreciate it in hard times like these
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my dad left the family when i was just 8 months old
