Breakup Guilt Trip
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How many times have you heard someone say to you, or heard from someone else who said to them: “Don’t break up with me, I’ve already been broken too many times.”
I have two points to this:
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Why’re you putting the burden on someone else that you’ve “been broken to many times?” It’s not their fault you had a ton of break ups in the past. So don’t make them feel like they have to stay with you just because you’ve been hurt. So many relationships have stuck together just because the partner felt guilty and like they had to stay. That also leaves them feeling a responsibility they shouldn’t have.
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If you’ve dated so many people that you’ve been broken “too many times,” there’s a problem. You got to stop dating over and over till it sticks. That’s like throwing a pencil at the ceiling hoping it stays, but it comes right back down and pokes you in the eye. Stop doing that to yourself. Give your heart time to breath after you break up with someone. If you don’t give yourself a break, guess who’ll be breaking? You. So please. Take the time to find the right person. Not just a person. It’ll save you a lot of heartbreaks. Actually, if there’s a pattern of people breaking up with you, maybe you need to do some self reflection.
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Honestly I hate this
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ive never heard that because people know i still wont stay with them, like stop being desperate
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@Duchess see, I always tell my girlfriend that if she ever wants to break up with me, that it’s okay, I’ll understand, and that she shouldn’t feel bad for it. If she decides our relationship is too much, or not enough, then her judgment is best. Her health matters so much to me, and I’m certainly not finna manipulate her into staying if she doesn’t want to.
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@Vampire-Prince-Cyx Also make sure you’re putting your mental health as a priority too. Not just her judgment is best. It’s mutual. Not just one person calls the shots :)
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@Duchess yes I know, she tells me that if I ever need a break to let her know immediately, and if it ever gets too much, that I’m perfectly fine to leave <3
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@Vampire-Prince-Cyx Oh, I see. That’s good.
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my relationships aren’t anybody’s problem except mine
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jun I know. But if there’s a problem, it doesn’t hurt to seeks ways to fix it via talking about it to someone. Not that I’m here asking for people to talk about their relationship problems, but this is just something I had on my mind of a while.
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@Duchess yeah ngl I don’t give a damn about myself, I mostly focus on making sure ones I care about are safe and doing good
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I gave up on myself a long time ago
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Currently single af but IF I chose to actually say yes to someone asking me out idc if they leave me cuz that’s their choice, that’s what they want and I wont stop them no matter how much it hurts to let go
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I’m not saying anything else cuz this ain’t about me and I feel I’m making it that way…so ima shut up
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@SushiFox I ment to reply not quote it
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@SushiFox lol
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@Balavin-Dread What’s the reason you don’t care about yourself?
Edit: wait you said you didnt want to talk about it. That’s fine. I hope you find the confidence to seek some help though.
Edit again: But I would like to add in, it sounds like you don’t think you deserve to have someone stay with you. I really really hope you figure out that you do deserve happiness too. And discarding yourself and your feelings will not be a longterm answer.
