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Warning, this is a long story
I don’t know if any of you long-time mpp users remember “Parma,” but we were friends once.
Ironically this same month two years ago, I had joined back on discord with the help and motivation of one of my old friends named Parma. He was nice at first, and I thought he had changed since he has been actually pretty known to be a jerk on mpp. I trusted his word. About a week or two into him having helped me back on discord, he began to be extremely toxic. He got mad at everything I said and would get extremely violent over messages with me. He got angry and exposed pictures of me and personal information in a public server that had hundreds of people. He said it was payback. For what? All because Lavendar Ghost (back when we were still friends) asked me if Parma was 12 years old I said “no.” Apparently that was giving out too much personal information. I told him he was a hypocrite because he exposed so much about me to just random people, but of course he got more mad. Parma accused me of talking smack about him when I told Lav how he called me tons of names, said he hoped I’d die, hoped my family and I would get cancer, hoped my Polish great great grandparents died from the Nazi’s, and other horrible things. I was looking to get the encouragement to block him since I was very bad at standing up for myself back then. Parma asked if I talked smack about him to Lav and I said no because to me, smack is different from just looking for support. He found out I told Lav everything and called me a liar and kept reminding me that I was a liar the remaining of our friendship (which was only like a few months becuase who the heck could handle that?). During that short friendship, he also kept begging to date me, no exaggeration almost daily. He asked for even “just one minute.” I’m not stupid enough to date that psycho even for a second.
Time went on and I had drifted apart from him because of the constant toxicity. Then I started dating Tree that following October. Parma reached out three months later and asked if I was dating anyone and I was reluctant about saying something because I knew he’d blow up, so I told him to promise me he wouldnt start screaming at me. He promised. He did not keep that promise. He called me many names, went on and on about hoping I’d die (again), and took all my photos (again) and put them in the mpp server, shared them with all my friends, and told them all that I was keeping my relationship a secret from them. I wasn’t ready to tell them about it considering it’d only been three months. I was extremely hurt, to say the least.
I blocked him and didn’t speak to him for over a year.
The reason I make this post is because he showed up on his ex’s account a few days ago. He said he wanted to be friends again and claimed he’d changed. It had been so long, so I thought I’d give him a second (or was it the third) chance. I reminded him that the moment he pulls anything, he’s blocked and never to have another chance again. We hadn’t started a sit down conversation to catch up till this morning. He proved he hasn’t changed in not even a single day. He put me down for having been “online dating,” said that he had the better life, and that I “haven’t made any steps forward in my life the entire year.” He admitted he “bullies virgins and online daters” but claimed he wasn’t bullying me…? I am not stupid enough to get gaslighted so I blocked him about an hour and a half ago.
My lesson to you guys, if you know someone extremely toxic, don’t let them back in. Don’t let them in thinking they’ve changed. Most likely they haven’t. As Tree said, “With toxic people, you don’t negotiate. You just leave.” And for the off chance that they have changed, don’t gamble yourself to find out. They jacked up and it’s their time to pay for their actions.
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Oh, I’m not gonna read all of that because you told me all about it a while back. But I knew Parma, as I told you. We were friends, kinda. Since I was younger I’d always get mad at him, but when I got older and stopped interacting with him he started to harass me a lot. Apparently he said something weird about me once, can’t remember what it was though.
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This proves people that are always happy and helpful has a terrible thing happening in there back story. Absolutely horrible. You are an amazing person and deserved nothing of this. You being so nice and helpful dragged you down to this. Just don’t hesitate sometimes when you see signs of bad logic and tone between someone. People don’t deserve stuff like that and be constantly haunted down. Trust is something strong but fragile at the end l. I learned it the hard way myself. I’m still learning now. Duchess, you truly have been through some stuff over the years. It’s awful to hear something about this.
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@513 Oh yeah, I remember. The new part of the story is him is the third paragraph. I really feel stupid for having gave him another chance after all this time honestly. Parma is just toxic all the way around. He claims he’s dating someone he’s been friends with for 6 years, but I’m not sure I can believe him. I’m sorry he harassed you too.
@Menos_Barbos Thank you. I Don’t know how I keep getting dragged in toxic people’s lives. Im trying to be smarter about detecting it early on now.
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Oh, the irony. He tried online dating too, he just didn’t tell you.
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@Duchess Eh, I had lost a friend yesterday. They was toxic anyways.
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@WoodGecko9118 Yeaaah
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Sapphire!!! Wait, who? Im sorry to hear they werer toxic
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@Duchess Parma, what an old name! Yeah I knew him too, he kind of was a shithead and he ‘joked’ about things that I told him that were personal.
I’m so sorry that this guy hurt you and exposed stuff about you! Nobody deserves to go through that. We’re here for you if you need us.
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@Duchess Someone off of Discord.
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@InvalidBandit Im sorry he got you too :( He claims he’s more mature now but yesterday proved that wrong.
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