need advice
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@finneass okay, so I’d say- a paragraph like uh- idk something like this.
You: He hurts you, he’s damaging you, he’s lovebombing and breaking you. He’s abusing his power over you, and you’re better than that, you are amazing and he is trying to use your pain for his gain. You are loved by so many other people who will treat you better, this man I know you enjoy his nice words every now and then, but it’s not worth it. You don’t wanna end up in a situation where youre contemplating your own life because of what he’s doing to you, do you?? You cannot be stuck in this situation
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@Cyx honestly, I can understand and relate so much, you just gotta be understanding with her, and really try to break it to her how absolutely fucking revolting this man is. Like goddam he sounds like a disgusting pig.
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@Cyx and give her an example like “what would you do if I was in this situation? You’d do the same right? You’d help me and try to get me out safely right? You know I’m here for you the same like you’re here for me.”
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I hope this helps ♥️♥️
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@Cyx it did <333
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@finneass it’s just cause I know a friend like that, and she really needs to understand that her partner is horrible for her. I love her truly, but I’m working on getting her out. And it’s working, but slowly and slowly, and y’know what you just gotta show that same love.
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@Cyx goddamn, some people just suck, but i get it, its hard, i’ve been there before.
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@finneass It’s fascinating how toxic a relationship can be yet it still goes on because of the small feel-good moments he gives. No compliment or pet name can fix someone who doesn’t care about your feelings. This girl, like Cyx said, definitely seems to be getting lovebombed. Classic of a narcissistic (assuming you mean narcissist, not a nartocic substance user). I would ask her to start thinking of how she feels about herself with him, and how much he shows he truly cares about her. Trying to point out red flags she needs to consider in the relationship also is good, which I’m sure you probably are doing anyways.
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@finneass
I would go to your friend point out all the good and bad he has done to her. Judging from your pov - nothing good is happening.
After you point out all the good and bad - point out what might happen if thier relationship continues.
If she has had truama in the past - this is not good for her mental health…
stress is not good for her mental health
she needs to leave him… not all fast because he mad get mad and do something to her but she needs to cut off contact for awhile then if things continue - just leave him
I’m almost 100% sure he’s going to keep doing the same SHIT over and over again.
