The Generosity Series: 22
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Forgiveness Step Four
You should reflect on what you both can do to move on in life! There are two versions of this that I’m talking about. 1: Don’t think that 100% of the time that you get hurt, it’s 100% that person’s fault. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard someone tell me that someone hurt them but it turns out they both played a part in the fight. If someone tells you that you’ve hurt them, don’t be afraid to tell them that you were hurt too. But… Do not use this as a deflection mechanism to take the blame off you. Be reasonable. Accept your mistake, talk about it, but in a responsible way, tell that person after that they aren’t the only one who’s hurt. Make sure you both can move forward. It’s not always just one person who can be wrong.2: Maybe that person is 100% at fault. There are occasions that are higher threats, such as asking for inappropriate pictures of someone, bullying someone for no reason, publicly exposing someone, etc. You can’t really move away from the fact that that’s 100% on them. But this is where you talk about ways you can heal from that person. Maybe you can talk about the root cause of why they did what they did. A lot of the reasons people do bad things is because of their personal life problems that cause depression which leads to poor behavior. If this person means enough to you, have a deep generous discussion about that. Because the only way to get rid of weeds is to pull out the roots.
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It is difficult to seek forgiveness when you feel unworthy
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@ZaZa How come you feel unworthy? Everyone is worthy : )
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@Duchess Well, some people could feel that way. They would feel like they had done something wrong on there end to forgive them. Like, push them away. But not all but some
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@ZaZa Well. Everyone does wrong things. No one’s immune to messing up. And no one has ever not hurt someone in their life. I think people who feel unworthy of being forgiven need to cut themselves some slack. The worst people in the world can be forgiven. Maybe not trusted completely, but forgiven. I know that some people feel undeserving of it, but…you know that it’s what you need. We all need forgiveness. Because if we mess up, and no one forgave you, no one would heal.
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@Duchess Very true
