hehehe- bouta cry or sumthn
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I asked my mom one simple question. she said I was complaining. when I asked how, she was like “what do you mean how?!” I said how again she was like “stop fighting with me!” I asked how am I fighting with her and she was just like “elizabeth! stop fighting with me!” like wtf. hehehehehehehehe wanna cry cuz I just wanted to ask something
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@Lechuga
That’s how my mom is ;-;
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@TheyluvMe yea- then I have to go into my room and cry silently everytime teheheheheheheeheh
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@TheyluvMe ;v; <3
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@Lechuga
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@Lechuga Well let me tell you something. Parents are usually in a bad mood. Not trying to say all parents are, because there are lovely parents out in the world. But. Some are usually bitter. They’re at that age that they care less about their kids and more about expectig respect without question or giving respect. So. Not like you did anything wrong, obviously. And you know that, but. Some people just hate questions. To them it’s basically them feeling like they are being questioned of their authority and intelligence. And…some times when you just want answers, they call it “fighting” just because they don’t want to answer, or accept they’re wrong or being unreasonable. There’s something called using the “parent card”, and basically it’s when a parent over uses their authority to demonish your value as a person and as their child. That’s pretty much what happens with any time a parent accuses you of arguing with them when you’re not. It does hurt a lot. It teaches kids not to talk to their parents. It teaches kids to be afraid to ask or question anything. If you constantly get accused of arguing, over time it makes you feel like a bad child. Like everything you do will be wrong. I hope that doesn’t usually happen with your mom. Sorry for the shpeel o.o Hope everything’s alright with your mom ❤
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@Duchess it does usually happen all the time, but thank you. <3 <3 <3
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@Lechuga my whole day is ruined cheecckkkkk <33333
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@Lechuga Well I’m really sorry to hear that. I think we are all here to help you through it if you want. Or if you want to dm me, I’m always happy to hear about it. Family is a mystery, and it’s the hardest when they make us struggle since their job is supposed to raise you in love. A good reason to cling to the friends you trust most. Because they could truly be all you have to support you mentally.
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@Lechuga Not the only one who goes through bs like that. You try to explain something to your parents something that you didn’t mean to do, at the end somehow they think your fighting with them or talking back. All your trying to do is reason with them and explain your story. I hate when that happens.
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@MENACE-TO-SOCIETY Yeah. Pretty much. Which is why I have so much respect for kids and young adults. They go through so much. And not everyone believes them because nearly all parents act that way. “You’re disrespectful” “Stop talking back” “Don’t argue”. Like, this generation was born with Karens as parents. And… it’s not fun xD Nobody gets that people’s kids need respect too! You think kids are here to bow down to your needs and wants? Uhh, no? Just because you’re a parent, doesn’t make you the master. Just because you’re a parent, doesn’t make you the general, and what you say always flys. Homes shouldn’t be a “you do what I want when I want with no question” kind of place. That’s a dictstion household. Which isn’t healthy.
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@Duchess But guess what? I gotta live it. But when I have kids Im not gonna treat them Like how Mine did me. Ill just go with the flow. Almost out the house. Finna head to college. The rest of my years in this world are going to be amazing. So what else could be better? Get old, Get married, Treat my kids right and Live on as long as I can. I am gonna be the best person I can to me and others. I thank the people who are there for me and helped me on the run. Sometimes it was hard, It’s still gonna be harder and harder in the future. That’s how life is. Life is not easy. You work for it. It is what it is.
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@MENACE-TO-SOCIETY Not to say we shouldn’t respect our elders, because you absolutely should. But, there isn’t a respectable balance between children and parents. Which I personally believe should be addressed today. Because…parents use their role a little more like a dictator, rather a nurturing familial part of society. Homes are where the person begins their life. And the least people could do is love someone as they’d like to be loved. Not to say they don’t love you at all, but…love is more that a feeling. It’s an action. And when your kid feels ike the actions of their parents makes them feel less of an importance to them, then… It will hurt. And could effect them later in life.
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@Duchess True. But me, In my own opinion. To me Love is just your (My) Imagination. So Love for me works in a different way.
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@MENACE-TO-SOCIETY Gosh, absolutely. And I have the same plan. I plan on being the very thing I preach I want in life. People are beautiful. But it’s the most gorgeous thing when people strive to give someone else the life they only dreamed of. I plan on doing that. And to anyone out there who hates their life, the only thing I ask is that you make someone love theirs so you can love yours. Because helping someone love opens you up to love too. If you can’t fix yours yet, plan on making sure someone doesn’t have to deal with what you did. So at least maybe it will be the only thing that stops the domino of bad home lives.
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@Duchess I agree. Its just hard at some points. Sometimes we all cant handle it. That’s what leads to break ups and death. Not are fault. Its the mind and its ability to take as much down fall and stress into it and process it.
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@MENACE-TO-SOCIETY Well, some people think love is just in your head because they don’t know what love realy is like. I’m not saying that’s you, but. I’m sure you’re young and healthy. Maybe you haven’t experienced feeling true love from someone. Family, friends… It’ll come from somewhere. Even if it’s something you feel’s in your head, sometimes that’s a darn good feeling anyways. ❤
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@Duchess It is what it is so, It doesn’t matter for me. I have to get better. It doesn’t matter what the situation is. Doesn’t matter. Get better.
