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@Cozy-Talk In life, some people have that one thing that if it was fixed, your life would change for the better instantly. That could be either having a different teacher that causes a lot of stress at school, having the confidence to separate from a toxic friend, or having the time to do something you’ve always wanted.
What is the one thing you wish you could change to make your life better?
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@Duchess
Having all my family drop the grudges against each other -
I would get rid of my step mom, that’s my dream
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Switch schools
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if my family would pay me some attentio theyd realize that the only reason im sane in this gucking madhouse of yelling and screaming 24/7 is a7x, soad and slipt and i could go back to irl therapy bc onkine is online isnt working anf i shouldnt have to say im suicidal again to get attentio and not be loke ignored and put second all the time
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I’d get rid of mine and Cursed Cucumber 's stepmom. She’s caused a lot of aggression and headaches. Me and cucumber are tired of her and plan on saying something about it to our dad. Hopefully she’ll be gone soon… (We don’t like her)
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get rid of my toxic ex. she cheated on me 5 times, i was okay with it bc i thought we were soulmates but really she was manipulating me and now im happy and shes trying to fuck everything up by saying she still loves me. when she would literally cheat in front of my fucking face. i cant seem to get rid of her because i dont love her romantically anymore but i was trauma bonded to her and i really loved her for 2 years. then i woke up anf left her and i still care but not enough to get the that makes i realized she was toxic and manipulative and left her. but shes crazy so yay. now shes trying to fuck up my happy relationship.
i luv myself and mari
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@Ryleigh Yeah, I know what you mean. Family not being able to come together due to stupid grudges really harms everybody. And it’s not fair to people born into family already having grudges.
@Pԋσҽɳιx Do you get bullied or is it the teachers? Or both?
Cursed Cucumber @I_Løve_Zøf Wow. Yeah, I can tell this person’s really difficult for you guys. Unfortunately, I think you can only pray she becomes a better person.
@maybenot-finneas I see. People simply seeing and understanding your struggles would make such a huge difference. It wouldn’t be as lonely, I’m sure. I am sorry you can’t get that kind of care right now. Have you talked to your parents about it or…? I understand if you can’t just ask about that kind of thing. And what kind of online therapy do you do?
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jeff.isweird if she keeps trying shit i know where she lives and i can walk to her house. i will fuck her up if i fucking need to. and i mean that shit with my whole heart.
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@Duchess i zoom with mae once a week and when i tell them they say its just parenting and ill understand when im older qhen i when i have kids (which im about 99.999999999% sure i wont.)
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jeff.isweird Whoa… I have heard about those kinds of relationships, and honestly, toxic relationships can be more difficult to get rid of than healthy ones. Being trauma bonded to a person is no joke, and is dangerous if you’re unaware of it. I’m glad you got out of that relationship after two years. Being trauma bonded like that could have even lasted decades, believe it or not. The fact that she cheated on you 5 times and shows no signs of not doing it again proves she never really loved you honestly. Real love doesn’t do that, which I’m sure you know. What kinds of things did she do/say to trauma bond you to her? How is she trying to ruin your current relationship? If you dont mind, I’m curious about the details there.
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@maybenot-finneas Parenting isn’t the same thing as therapy, though parenting can include elements of therapy such as listening and understanding your child. There’s more of a deeper dive to therapy that gets to the root cause of struggles weather it’s in yourself or from others. Who is Mae? Is this someone you meet on a platform or? And are they an adult or a friend?
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@Duchess maes my therapist
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@Duchess so to tell that story we gotta go back, we started dating 4 weeks after we met, instant connection type shit yk. she said she loved me after we’d been dating for 2 weeks, i wasnt ready to say it. she guilted me into it, it evwntually beit eventually became true. then she cheated and she’d apologize and say she’d never dio it again and be like “oh well i never meant to hurt you im so sorry im stupjd, idk why i did that.” this wad about 6 months in. then she never started anyone else after abt 11 months but she continued flirting and entertaining other people. she callrd me her soulmate, thw love of her life, her smile and sunshine. uh she used to tell me rhe thjngs i told her i wished my parents told me so i became attached to that validation and so her. i told her to stop and she never did. it wad the littlwas the little things, she remembered my favorite color , things i said, shes a charmer. she used to guilt trip me for being top close to other people for fear of losing me. so, i broke up qith her, about 4 months later i started dating mari, we’ve been dating for 7-8 months atp. so my ex who im loosely friends with is sending her screenshotsf old texg messages but edited and mari can tell theyre edited but its getting to her head and im trying my best but its not working and its annoying
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@Duchess No it’s just extremely stressful. The school is called “The english school” despite it being in Sweden
They think that since everything is taught in English there needs to be lots of assignments, homework, and tests every day -
@Duchess to start caring about myself, start taking care of myself, and to not care about what others think about me
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My father’s actitude every time I come back from school
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jeff.isweird said in A better life?:
i never meant to hurt you
:I Yeah right. You don’t cheat and “never mean to hurt anyone.”
Honestly, all of this sounds very close to a narcissistic relationship. I absolutely could be wrong, but the fact that they bomb you with the thoughtful & charming stuff to win you over, are very unloyal, are jealous of you being close to other people, they guilt trip, and they now sabotage your current relationship… Yeah, that’s extremely toxic if not narcissistic. I used to be friends with a guy who did those very things to me and I found out he was a narcissist. Of course I’d have to know her myself but wowzers. I am glad your girlfriend doesn’t think the screenshots are real but I think you really need to start considering going no contact with this person. They’re messing up your life as I see, and that’s no way to live. How come you consider them a loose friend?
@Pԋσҽɳιx Whoa, what? Well that’s weird. Are you falling behind because of all this?
@OVERLORD What does he do/say?
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@Duchess I’ve got great grades but I’d rather have terrible grades and not be stressed out
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@Pԋσҽɳιx Right, yeah. I understand that. Stress for a long time can have a negative impact on your health, even.
