boundaries?

[finn.in.outer.space.]

so it’s important to have boundaries, whether it be in a friendship, relationship, job environment, school environment whatever, what are some boundaries that you have, or boundaries that you think everyone should have or that should just be common sense?

[finn.in.outer.space.]

for me personally, i definitely have a few i’ll lay out that actually may surprise some people because i dont tell people about my boundaries as much as i should.

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• don’t talk shit about people i’m close with/friends with to me. i’d rather you not talk badly upon people i’m close with unless you ask first (preferably not at all) because it puts me in a weird spot where i don’t want to tell your business or like, cause drama but i also don’t wanna be fake to my friends and not tell them that someone they like/are friends with doesn’t really like them anymore or smth.

• don’t sexualize me. this should be common sense but yk, that doesn’t seem to be so common here. so if i send you a photo of me or if i’m showing you something on call, unless you have permission (which you won’t unless we’re dating), don’t make comments about my body or anything. like calling me pretty/handsome/beautiful/fine is okay, i don’t mind those compliments but when it gets to be sexual it makes me uncomfortable.

• don’t send me weird shit. unless you’re a gc with specific permission, don’t send me NSFW photos/videos/pictures, which should also be common sense but yk. NSFW is not just sexual stuff, it’s gore and other stuff of that sort too.

• feel free to vent to me but don’t use me as a punching bag. if you’re gonna vent about suicidal thoughts or ideation let me know before hand as well so i can prepare myself, you can vent about it, i’d just like to know. and if you vent, don’t take your anger or feelings out on me, i’m not a punching bag.

• don’t screenshot things i say out of context and send it to other people without my permission. again, common sense but you know. this one makes sense. i don’t want things i say to be taken in any other manner than the one i said it in.

• don’t confess having feelings for me out of nowhere. idk it’s just weird, if you’re gonna confess at least warn me or hint at it heavily or something, i’d rather that not be somethings that out of the blue someone just says that to me because it makes me feel weird.

• don’t talk about my exes/people i’ve cut off and made it clear i’ve cut off to me. i don’t care about their life anymore if i’ve cut them off or they’re no longer involved in my life so don’t bring them up. i’ve moved on and i genuinely couldn’t care less what the fuck they have going on in their lives at that point.

• don’t attack me randomly, you will get blocked.

• don’t pretend to speak one of the languages i speak for “bonus points” with me. i’ll recognize if you don’t actually speak it so quickly, so don’t lie. it doesn’t help you anyways. just cause you speak the same language as me doesn’t make you any cooler in my eyes. if you’re a sucky person you suck regardless of what language you speak. bullshit and toxic are the same in every language.

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anyways thats mine, what are yours?

[claire.the.emo]

i dont rly have any big ones just don’t like be a pedophile lolz

[Knox]

if i dont know you
dont touch me
(i feel like this is comon sense? usually with older people, get yo nasty hands away Susan)

[A Former User]

not to fucking touch me
that’s just an irl basic lol