The Generosity Series: 19

[A Former User]

Forgiveness Step One
Highlight in an informative way to that person what they did to hurt you. You might be mad, but it’s very important not to use this step to call that person names, wish them ill will, or shut them out on the spot. Because that’s not even giving that person an opportunity to speak or reflect on what they did. All they’ll think about is how intolerant you were to them, and not think about what they did to get you mad in the first place. I understand it’s hard not going all someone out, and I’m not saying you should never get mad and send someone a full-on mic drop paragraph, but take this step more respectively. Telling someone where they went wrong isn’t supposed to be the key to make someone change. It’s hard for someone to take in. So never expect calling someone out to solve the problem. After all, it’s only step one.