“People like to turn pain into a competition here to see who goes through more pain and to make people feel invalid and if you do this on this post I swear to god I’m gonna block you.”
So true. And that’s how people end up being afraid to tell others about the things they’re going through. Because they’re so afraid to get it belittled / compared to by others.
I strongly believe people go through things on different levels, and it should never be a competition to simply get someone to listen to your pain… When someone tells you they’re going through something, it’s not an invitation to tell them what your going through too. Sometimes people think that since they’re struggling, the whole world should bow down to their sadness. Maybe they don’t say it, but when they’re asking and basically pleading for sympathy, that’s when you know.
While you have silent sufferers who’re afraid to say anything because they don’t want people to attack them and say, “well how would you like if this or that happened to you,” or “I wish that’s all I had to worry about.” And honestly. it’s disgusting. It truly is. Because, as I said, people go through suffering in all forms. And guess what. Because everyone is different. We react to things differently that others.
When two people have gone through the same thing and, one is sad and the other is unbothered, just because you’re unbothered by it, doesn’t mean you should ever…tell the other that they’re making a big deal. Ever. Because you don’t know them. You don’t know their past, and you don’t know their thoughts.
So when you read someone talking about a situation that you too have been though don’t get mad that they’re reaching out while you sit there doing nothing for yourself.
