@maybenot-finneas Firstly, Im sorry to hear about your aunt. I wouldn’t know how to feel having a close member of the family having cancer.
The fact that your mom makes you feel like a failure, a people pleaser, please her, and lie to get out of her hurting you mentally or physically really makes me extemely curious how she acts and what she says exactly, if you don’t mind sharing. This is definitely not a good relationship. You can’t even tell her how you feel. That’s really sad. At least you try to disrance yourself every once in a while. But Im also very curious about what you mean about being too attached, also if you don’t mind sharing.
This guy from your church obviously doesnt live his faith, otherwise he’d be way more chaste. Im sorry that clown did what he did. Just imagine if you guys dated. Yikes. I suppose it’d be messy to tell your paster about him. Though I do recommend it. I know you can’t really tell your aunt about this dude, but maybe you can say you got creepy vibes from him or something. I don’t know if they’d believe that though lol.