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So my mom yelled at me for 2 hours this morning about something that I didnāt even do. Then she called me an attention seeker and told me that Iām disgusting and annoying and that I pretty much ruined her life.
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And it feels like no matter what I do I can never live up to her expectations, so Iām little bit irritable today thatās why.
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@welmyymelmyy damnš
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And I tried to pretend Iām OK and I tried to let it be fine but I just canāt do it.
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So Iām sorry in advance if Iām a little bit fucking irritable
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@welmyymelmyy My mother has been pretty open about me being a disappointment for my entire 24 years of existence. Iāve learned to ignore it and just do what makes me happy. If she doesnāt like it, who cares. Iām not trying to impress her anymore. In life you shouldnāt focus on those who are cheering for your downfall, bringing you down and trying to exclaim your mistakes. Shoo them off and focus on those who are cheering you on, hoping for your upbringing. Things will be okay, Just donāt listen to her.
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Funny thing she claim she knows me better than anybody else on the planet
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She doesnāt know my preferred name or no the fact that Iām suicidal.
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@welmyymelmyy hey no worries lol. Itās understandable
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Iām really sorry that your mother is not the best. parents like to think they know best and they have such high fuckin standards for no reason, and iām sorry you have to deal with that. If you ever need to vent, Iām still here, always have been. I hope your mother realizes her mistakes and I hope you feel better. And itās understandable that youāre irritable.
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@X-Cyx-X thank cyx
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@welmyymelmyy <3
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Dang Finn, Iām really sorry that happened to you, I know how your mom can get when she yells and she does like to attack you a lot Iāve seen it happened before but I donāt think itās ever gotten this bad.
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@welmyymelmyy Iām so sorry this is happening to you. But like what @CaptainPresto said, just because sheās your mother doesnāt mean you have to impress her all the time. Ik, it may be painful to disappoint your mom as you do, but remember, youāre your own person. If you know youāre doing your best to simply be the person you are, then thatās all that matters. What your mom thinks of you is just her opinion. Again, ik this is painful af, but trust me, her opinion is just her opinion.
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this is where cps comes into play
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@welmyymelmyy Often parents who act as exteame as this, they have a lot of emotional bagadge and stuff. Unfortunately they take their anger out on their kids, and that puts them in a pickle. Especially since it effects your whole life. Like Captain said, eventually you got to realize who you should stop trying to impress or please. Not all parents can be satisfied with their kids, yknow. As sad as it is. That might put you in a position to not care about her opinion anymore, but that helps to stop getting hurt by someone who most likey wonāt stop. Itās hard to let go of wanting to make her happy since sheās your mom, but like any other person in the world, make sure you dont waste your time bending yourself so often to appease a most likey unpleasable person.
It really burns me up when parents call their kids attention seeking. I donāt know the context, but often when parents call their kids āattention seeking,ā itās straight up gaslight. Which, the main subconscious goal is to influence you into rethinking your reality. If someone keeps telling you āyouāre attention seeking,ā its so easy to end up believing them in the end. And make you think āmaybe I really am.ā I doubt you are genuinely attention seeking, but parents donāt always believe that. A parent shouldnāt just call their kid attention seeking. Im telling you, it does often eventually make people oppress themselves to make sure people donāt think they are looking for attention even for slight things. Which could lead to self neglect and stuff : (
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The problem is I have to impress her or she takes my phone and then I canāt talk to my husbands
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@welmyymelmyy I totally understand that honestly. You kind of feel locked into trying to make her happy for at least your own sake / safety. It feels like you have to play her game. I mean, thatās what it seems. I can see it feeling like emotional blackmail. Like āI got to do this or else she has the power to do this,ā and often parents know that. And thatās why I consider it āblackmail.ā That sort of thing makes anyone feel anxious nonstop, wondering when you didnāt do enough and when youāll have simple things taken away. So, yeah, it does in a way make you feel like you literally have to impress her.
May I ask if you ever thought about telling her these sort of problems you have with her? If not, I completely understand. Besides literally trying to talk about it and making her known of the problem, thereās unfortunately not much else you can do in terms if physical action. Since clearly nothing pleases your mom. But you also canāt really not try to please her either. I suggest at the very least try to keep sane. Keep a good head on your shoulders. Donāt let her insults get to that good head. Dont doubt yourself. Itās 100% easier said than done, but it absolutely is possible to take on that kind of dicipline.
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