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@Creati132 my petty ass made a whole 90 slide presentation of evidence ._.
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@luv-4-finnxo You showed your friend?
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@Creati132 YES
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@luv-4-finnxo Not to be mean or anything, but your friend sounds kinda obsessed
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@Creati132 she is believe me
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@luv-4-finnxo well murder is an option
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@Creati132 he cheated on her 14 times in 2 weeks ._
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@yourlocalkitkat Yes.
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@luv-4-finnxo AND SHE GOT BACK WITH HIS ASS LIKE BRO
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@luv-4-finnxo BROOOOOOO WHAT
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@Creati132 the fact you cheated once would be enough for me ngl
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@luv-4-finnxo murder
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@luv-4-finnxo Fr
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@yourlocalkitkat i would but his dad is my assistant coach
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@luv-4-finnxo damn.
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@luv-4-finnxo Welp, I hope your friend doesn’t end up marrying him
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@luv-4-finnxo Welp, I hope your friend doesn’t end up marrying him
i wont let her :)
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@luv-4-finnxo That’s what people do when they are desperate. They don’t want to be single for even a second and they excuse the toxic person’s stuff so they can live in denial of the toxicity and be uknowingly unhappy all because of their desperatness for love that could very well not exist.
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Sometimes, people can block out the truth to keep living happily. It’s common, and honestly if your friend wants to keep dealing with that, i think you should let them live that way, sooner or later they’ll snap out of it and realize that their emotional wellbeing is more important than not letting go.
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@luv-4-finnxo With someone who cheats so often, and a gf who’s willingly staying, it soooounds like he probably charms her enough that she wants to keep him. I mean. He has to know how to charm when he cheated so many times in such little time lol. So my guess is that he does the same with her. But I guarantee you it’s fake, shich you probably know already. Guys who cheat, but charm their gf into getting back with them - or charming them enough in the past to make them feel like he’s too nice of a guy to break up with - are plain manipulators. And actually, there’s a name for that fake love manipulative guys give at the beginning of a relationship. Love Bombing. Basically, you charm someone and act so glorious and romantic, and then when they “have” you, they turn. And I can almost guarantee that he love bombed all those girls he was cheated with, and especially your friend. It’s really scary when you think about it because it hooks so many girls into a highly toxic relationship. I actually can’t blame anyone who keeps getting back with the same toxic partner. When you see that happen for a person, chances are they’re getting manipulated, not because they’re stupid. Ive seen countless times people getting back with the one guy everyone hates. And then people start hating the one who keeps going back. When someone wants love from somebody, and one guy keeps bombing you with love, it feels like that’s the “right” person. But then they turn. Cheat. Get nasty. Hurt you. Hurt others. Test the waters. And when they see you backing away from them, guess what? They bomb you. That can actually feel very gaslighty to anyone on the receiving end. Because often in this relationship, you see them doing something they shouldn’t and then they “butter you up” till you feel like you have to let it go. This is a form of gaslight because when they try to get you to forget or quikly forgive them for their continuous bad actions, it makes you feel like you “made a big deal,” or are “being to harsh on them,” when in reality, you’re not being harsh enough. I highly suspect is what this guy does to keep your friend on the line.
This kind of inspires me to pounce on this topic for future postings. I think everyone needs to hear something like this. Im sure many people out there have been in, or know someone in this situation.