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@luv-4-finnxo well murder is an option
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@Creati132 he cheated on her 14 times in 2 weeks ._
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yourlocalkitkat Yes.
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@luv-4-finnxo AND SHE GOT BACK WITH HIS ASS LIKE BRO
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@luv-4-finnxo BROOOOOOO WHAT
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@Creati132 the fact you cheated once would be enough for me ngl
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@luv-4-finnxo murder
c o o k i e s
mewo :3
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@luv-4-finnxo Fr
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yourlocalkitkat i would but his dad is my assistant coach
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@luv-4-finnxo damn.
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@luv-4-finnxo Welp, I hope your friend doesnât end up marrying him
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@Creati132 said in *SIGHHHH* *AUDIBLE SIGHHHH*:
@luv-4-finnxo Welp, I hope your friend doesnât end up marrying him
i wont let her :)
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@luv-4-finnxo Thatâs what people do when they are desperate. They donât want to be single for even a second and they excuse the toxic personâs stuff so they can live in denial of the toxicity and be uknowingly unhappy all because of their desperatness for love that could very well not exist.
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Sometimes, people can block out the truth to keep living happily. Itâs common, and honestly if your friend wants to keep dealing with that, i think you should let them live that way, sooner or later theyâll snap out of it and realize that their emotional wellbeing is more important than not letting go.
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@luv-4-finnxo With someone who cheats so often, and a gf whoâs willingly staying, it soooounds like he probably charms her enough that she wants to keep him. I mean. He has to know how to charm when he cheated so many times in such little time lol. So my guess is that he does the same with her. But I guarantee you itâs fake, shich you probably know already. Guys who cheat, but charm their gf into getting back with them - or charming them enough in the past to make them feel like heâs too nice of a guy to break up with - are plain manipulators. And actually, thereâs a name for that fake love manipulative guys give at the beginning of a relationship. Love Bombing. Basically, you charm someone and act so glorious and romantic, and then when they âhaveâ you, they turn. And I can almost guarantee that he love bombed all those girls he was cheated with, and especially your friend. Itâs really scary when you think about it because it hooks so many girls into a highly toxic relationship. I actually canât blame anyone who keeps getting back with the same toxic partner. When you see that happen for a person, chances are theyâre getting manipulated, not because theyâre stupid. Ive seen countless times people getting back with the one guy everyone hates. And then people start hating the one who keeps going back. When someone wants love from somebody, and one guy keeps bombing you with love, it feels like thatâs the ârightâ person. But then they turn. Cheat. Get nasty. Hurt you. Hurt others. Test the waters. And when they see you backing away from them, guess what? They bomb you. That can actually feel very gaslighty to anyone on the receiving end. Because often in this relationship, you see them doing something they shouldnât and then they âbutter you upâ till you feel like you have to let it go. This is a form of gaslight because when they try to get you to forget or quikly forgive them for their continuous bad actions, it makes you feel like you âmade a big deal,â or are âbeing to harsh on them,â when in reality, youâre not being harsh enough. I highly suspect is what this guy does to keep your friend on the line.
This kind of inspires me to pounce on this topic for future postings. I think everyone needs to hear something like this. Im sure many people out there have been in, or know someone in this situation.
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@Duchess Yeah exactly, heâs just making her feel good and making her feel loved when itâs convenient for him but once it stops he finds someone else. He just wants to be labeled as taken but without the repsonsibility behind it. Because he only acts like he loves her when shes horny which is really sad because shes 16, she should be loving and living her life. I really donât want him to hurt her but theres not much I can do. And honestly, I think shes just afraid to be alone. Like shes afraid sheâll never fall in love again and sheâll never find something as real as what she âhasâ with him. And I want to tell her that itâs not love its manipulation but itâs like shes drunk on his words and she wonât listen to anything anyone else says so shes just gonna have to find out for herself that heâs not the one and I wish he was because he makes her happy at the ri best and when I say happy I mean so happy. But she deserves so much more with all the love she gives him. Because itâs obvious that she loves him with her whole heart and thats why she stays and shes not ready to let go and its hard to watch somebody be in such a toxic relationship especially a friend where theyâre trapped so deep down under that they wonât let you pull them out and I want to help but I canât help someone who doesnât want it. Itâs actually really good that you said that because I feel less overprotective but shes just⊠obsessed.
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@luv-4-finnxo Yeah, exactlyâŠsounds like an obsession for sure. I think this bf knows his stronghold on your friend andâs taking advantage of it. I feel bad that she wants to love somone and is getting it from a toxic person. Nobody deserves that. When people are in these situations, you canât help but wonder how even happier theyâd be if it was a normal relationship. Let me tell you something. Toxic relationships are actually harder to break from than a healthy one. If thereâs this âmagical pullâ that you âjust cant put your finger on,â chances are itâs manipilation. And those phrases are often what people say about their toxic partner. I truly feel bad for her honestly. There are people have gone decades like this. Itâs possible to keep it going that long too. Because sheâs the only one who can break herself from the spell. And he keeps feeding it to her that love potion when heâs just giving her what he knows she wants. He gets the status, she gets the love. So no matter what he does - cheats with 14 people - she canât break from him.
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@finn-dfw-u shes letting him use her because the goods are really good, but the downside is the bads are really bad. you gotta understand, youâre looking from an outside perspective and shes looking from the inside and love clouds her vision a little yk? she loves him more than anything else and she wonât let him go because, she barely sees it as toxic because she has no sense of self worth, and ik youâre trying to be a good friend but all we can do is tell her the outside perspective and try and decloud her vision. shes afraid of being alone and shes afraid she wonât fall in love again and she will, matter a fact theres a perfectly healthy guy who genuinely loves her but shes so clouded by his lies and charm shes not gonna leave him. not even with your beautiful presentation which i love, titled âheâs a hoe, heres why.â
