I feel bad.

[A Former User]

So, I have a friend on MPPC. I’m not gonna say who but yea. They are always so nice to me and others. They help me when i’m sad. They have always been there for me. We still talk and we are still friends. But anytime they are sad, they go to me. And i feel like I’m not helping them like they are helping me. I feel like a bad person because the person who I’m talking about is always kind. They are never mean. They help the community be a better place. But so many people are abusing their kindness. No one really cares if they are nice because they are expected to be nice. And i just wish that i wasn’t one of those people. I feel like i’m taking advantage of their kindness. I try to make them happy, but I don’t always think that’s enough. Any time i talk to them i feel like i’m being a bad friend. They always act like they are okay and wanna spread joy go others, but deep down i know they just really want someone who understands them and who will love them as much as they love you. I’m trying to make up for it all. Even though they said i’m always kind to them, i know i can be nice. But that’s not what I’m talking about. I want to make them happy when they are sad. I want them to be able to know that if anything is wrong, they can talk to me. Yknow?

[A Former User]

@izzy-lolll It’s really tricky when you have a feeling someone’s not happy about something in their life and they’re not willing to open up. It is definitely something you can’t control, but I know it’s hard to still have that nawing feeling that you aren’t being there for your friend. The best I can tell you is allow them to warm up to the idea of opening themselves up. Not pressuing or asking for them to (which I know you don’t do :)) but reminding this friend that you will always be there for them if they need someone. I’m sure you do this, but it’s kind of all you can do for someone like this. You’re not a bad friend. You wanting to help and you showing compassion tells me, and definitely tells them, that you are a good friend. It’s just up to this person to let you in a little deeper with their personal thoughts. Allow what you to put out there to be enough for this friend. Even if you feel like you can’t measure up, no one can do the same thing. And that doesn’t make you a worse friend. Being able to help someone doesn’t go hand in hand with being a better friend than you are now. It’s the willingness to help that makes you that amazing friend.