Manipulation (Mainly Relationships) You Should Recognize

[finn.in.outer.space.]

I’ve noticed that a lot of people here get manipulated and don’t realize it until after. So here’s a list of common manipulative phrases to recognize:

“That’s not what I said.”
You cannot tell me what I heard and if it’s not then what did you say?

“You shouldn’t feel that way.”
You have no right to tell me how to feel.

“You’re overreacting!”
Don’t tell me what an overreaction is.

“You made me do this.”
I can’t make you do shit.

“I said I was sorry! What more do you want from me?”
I’m supposed to automatically forgive you? Nah.

“You’re too sensitive.”
Sensitivity is a good thing. Get some.

“You’d do it if you loved me.”
Don’t tell me how to love you, I’m not doing shit I don’t want to.

“You’re paranoid.”
And what if I am? There’s nothing wrong with that and I trust my instincts.

“Why are you so dramatic?”
Define dramatic, is it a synonym to right? There’s nothing wrong with my reaction.

“We shouldn’t talk about this now because…”
Well when should we? Because you clearly don’t want to address the issues here.

“I love you and will do anything to make this work.”
Seriously? Using the fact that you love me to try and force me to stay with guilt tripping?

“Your friends are a bad influence on our relationship.”
No, you’re just jealous and want to isolate me away from everyone.

“I don’t remember that happening.”
The lies you tell. Then what happened huh?

“Are you stalking me?”
I don’t know am I? Should I be?

“That is your problem. Not mine.”
If you’re fucking with my head then thats gonna be a you problem when we’re over with.

“We can talk when you stop acting crazy.”
I’m always crazy, like bitch

“How many times do I have to say ‘Sorry’? Geez!”
Until you mean it? Tf?

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I don’t care how many times you tell me I’m wrong on this because these are literally proven by psychology and I can give you my sources. So, I hope I could help someone and watchout for these please <3

Disclaimer: I am in no way a psychologist, I used some of these from experience and others from psychology websites. I am doing this to help the MPPC community!

I’ll do more of these for friendships if you guys want! Just let me know!

Please keep in mind that some of these can be toxic, but they also couldn’t be, look at the situation first before putting it that way.

Stay safe and stay away from toxic relationships! Learn when to walk away. If you don’t like the things they do or lose feelings its okay to leave! Remember, relationships are built on trust and if you don’t trust them then you shouldn’t be dating them! If you feel like you can’t leave, talk to someone, I am here and so are @Global-Moderators and probably almost everyone. We’re glad to have you here, protect your mental health first!

[A Former User]

@casually-finneas Facts with a capital F.

[finn.in.outer.space.]

@Duchess W Duchess

[A Former User]

@casually-finneas Very well put.

[jeff.isweird]

bro your responses are KILLING me- but yeah honestly you’re right. people get manipulated and don’t realize it and these are really common phrases. Glad you did this!

[A Former User]

@casually-finneas well “we shouldn’t talk about this now” and “I don’t remember that happening” can be used in many different scenarios, and I think it’s important that while yes it CAN be manipulative, generalizing it in the title and topic point isn’t that good. My girlfriend tells me “we shouldn’t talk about this now-” to tell me when she isn’t okay and can’t handle something. OR, I say “I don’t remember that happening” when I genuinely don’t remember a point she’s brought up. Not all of these are manipulative and I can see that they can be very very vague. Also, it’s not bad to tell someone or your partner when they’re genuinely overreacting about something, and I think that response should not be painted to be rude and belittling.

[A Former User]

@Vampire-Prince-Cyx Though I do very much agree with most of your statements on what sounds manipulative and what sentences are very belittling, derogetory and weird or iffy

[Shazz_]

@casually-finneas I agree the same

[A Former User]

@Vampire-Prince-Cyx not entirely disagreeing with you or arguing, just giving insight

[finn.in.outer.space.]

@Vampire-Prince-Cyx yeah most of the ones that can be taken both ways are off the psychology website so not me, but you still should think about those.

[finn.in.outer.space.]

@casually-finneas I do agree though.

[A Former User]

@casually-finneas I think psychology websites can be very misleading sometimes when it comes to these things with signs and all of that. But I definitely shall take these into consideration cause I’ve seen people get manipulated and used like this before.

[finn.in.outer.space.]

@Vampire-Prince-Cyx yeah but some of them can DEFINITELY go both ways

[A Former User]

@casually-finneas oh yeah definitely

[A Former User]

@casually-finneas Very true.