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I realized I received a message this morning - I apologize to whomever wrote this because it’s been a while since I’ve looked through my inbox. I honestly don’t know how old this may be but what matters is solving your problem to the best of my abilities.
I personally believe that there are several things that can lead someone to hate themselves - other people in one’s life can definitely influence whether you even feel worthy towards the people you love, to your friends and everyone.
First, having self-worth is very important, and believing that you acquire that worth is what defines and intertwines your view point. You may come to know that, yeah, some people may dislike you for whatever reasons, but to let the disbelief that just, not existing at all can solve everyone’s problem, will lead you to believe that you don’t have a purpose and that you don’t deserve anything in life.
Fulfilling to a standard that you ‘always have to do things right’ is simply a misunderstanding. The supposed ‘good’ reason, being that you have to do things a certain way to make everyone else accept you isn’t honestly that good of a reason if I’m being frank.
Getting accepted by other people, especially your friends, builds up on your self-acceptance and your esteem. You do in fact need others’ beliefs to build up onto your own initial understanding of your meaning in life - like I said, sometimes the untrue disbelief that leads oneself astray can overshadow the majority, if not all of your original conceptions of your worth, but you need to know that you are extremely important. You’re important to your friends and family at least, and receiving hatred for trying to be a normal person is nothing but an unjust and silly reason to get hated for.
I’m sure your family cares for you dearly, unless your parents are also attributing to this entire dilemma itself - which I hope to doubt - but nonetheless, you may, or may not feel comfortable about yourself when you’re around with others, with the image of your unacceptance. That’s when you truly need to realize that your existence is for the better - you matter. If it weren’t for you being here, I’d imagine that many, many things would be left in a different manner than before. Some people may not have received the comfort, friendship or help that you may have given in the first place if you were to throw away your life early, or at all.
You obtain personal importance - special importance that no one is able to disfigure and manipulate. They potentially could, but even if they do, you shouldn’t let that get to you in a literal ‘should I live or die’ scenario.
Whoever this was, thank you for sharing out - your concern is one of many that need affectionate attention, and tending to problems like yours is deserving of that needing understanding, no matter the issue.
If you’d like to DM me in case you have any more concerns or questions, you’re more than welcome to. -
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I hope this helped. I’ll gladly talk to you some more if you need anything else -