Yall. this is ridiculous. its time to end this.

[A Former User]

@Duchess Shazz_
Alright, you two either gotta make up or agree to disagree and stop talking to each other.
This has been blown way out of proportion and each of you have gone too far imo.
Both of you have spoken about clearly private and personal things behind each other’s backs - sharing info about people’s conversations or dms.

Shazz, I’m aware that in your case this was originally supposed to be venting, but man, you cant just vent to anyone about anything. This isnt just like, elementary school man. Venting to other people about what Duchess has said behind her back isnt fair at all to her. Again, I’m aware that sometimes you just gotta have someone to talk to, but can’t you just pick one person, who’s trustworthy enough not to share and spread what you told them?
Beyond that, the situation about you not receiving “admin” should have been kept private anyways. That’s a thing between admins and mods, publicizing it makes Duchess unnecessarily sound like a bad person and is detraction ( a sin, its in the catechism, you can look it up if you’d like ).
It wouldnt have been so bad had you maybe at least given some credit to Duchess, but as far as I know you didnt tell anyone very much information about why you weren’t “admined” besides that Duchess didnt see you as “admin material”. Not fair to Duchess to say that and complain about her. It really makes her seem like a jerk and gives the other person a false impression about what actually happened. Considering it was an admin to admin thing, I would not be surprised if that ends up costing you your status as mod, revealing that kind of info.
Again, I understand admin was a big deal for you, but ruining Duchess’s reputation with people is kind of petty and really made Duchess very upset. That’s the main reason that she’s still upset about this, actually.

On the other hand, Duchess. I’m kind of disappointed in how you’ve handled this. I was on your side until you started accusing Shazz of being manipulative and “just being nice” about stuff. Even if that was true and he WAS being like that, the way I see it it’s not fair to just assume that about him, especially considering how hard he was trying to get back on good terms with you. I know that seems really two faced considering how he went behind you and talked to people, but at least he was trying to be nice. What he said in dms that I know about could have been pretty easily cleared up if people ever questioned you about it. But you focus a lot on your reputation. You know exactly who else does that in your life. On the other hand I’m glad you’ve managed to not fully blow up in Shazz’s face about this, but dude. smh.

This is causing both of you way to much strife. Just. stop. This is ridiculous for two mods of the site to be arguing like this. Do you know how bad that makes the site and both of you look??

And to the rest of you, MPPC.
I only make this public to clear up any confusion. This does NOT need to be anything more than it is. No one else needs to get involved. Both of these people are amazing people, and yall dont need to get involved (publicly OR privately) and make this worse. This is only scratching the surface with this stuff, most of you dont even know the beginning.

Blaming anyone wont help on any side. If you wanna blame someone, blame me lol. After all I’m the one posting this, and I’m the one who’s making this public.

Can someone lock this? I dont want a war in the replies. This doesnt need to be anything bigger than it is.
If Shazz and Duch feel the need to comment as mods, go ahead. but if you two start arguing honestly, I cant help either of you besides to go to nitsua about it or something.

[A Former User]

Shazz_ I’m sorry for making a bigger deal of this than it should have been. I have been honestly really salty and immature about everything between us for a long time, and being mad eats me up and I spiral into more negative emotions – which is why I hate being mad. I don’t hate you. Or dislike you. The main thing that got me so upset in the first place was you venting to your friend(s) about me. That hurt because I am private about what I shared with you. Despite that, I want to let it go and have things go back to normal between us. I want to move on and work together.

[Shazz_]

@Duchess I understand - my tendency to just vent when I feel like I need to can go beyond to where it necessarily shouldn’t go. I didn’t think we’d end up so far apart, in terms of reliability and even trust, but I know I should be more attentive and not just disregard the certainties and our talks that you’d want kept, and I’m sorry about that.
I know you didn’t mean to make this a big deal, but it’s okay because this has made me think about myself, and what I should change and what I should cherish. It’s okay :)
I love you Duchess - I know we’ll move on from this, and hopefully we will continue to work together, for each other and for the community