I hate being told to "calm down and be the bigger person"

[A Former User]

Okay, so, tell me why I need to be the bigger person because cuntface fucking retard (father) wants to get in my face, call me names, threaten me and call me this that and there because I, not even disrespectfully, speaking to him like a normal human being, said “I don’t know”.
Yeah, all I said were those three words.
So, when another adult in the house comes to intervene because I yelled back at my father, defending myself and my right not to be harassed, threatened, stressed out and berated for minding my own business, my dad, as usual, blames me for the situation, not himself or the fact he’s a hell-born Satan spawn fucking dickhead, so why the fuck do I get labelled as the asshole? Why do I get labelled as the prick??
When you come at me all fucking crazy with some stupid ass shit, I 100% have every right to defend myself, get angry, get frustrated, and verbally defend myself in any way I fucking want. So, you know what? If you’re going to tell me to calm down when I have a right to get upset and hurt another person’s feelings, don’t talk to me. Do not interact with me. If you’re going to get mad at me because I am defending myself from you, don’t even consider starting shit with me.

TL;DR don’t start shit with me if you’re gonna get mad that I treat you the same way

[A Former User]

@zack I see your stories about your father and… Im honestly surprised he’s not in jail. I dont know the guy, or know if he ever is nice on some occasions, but it doesnt seem like he’s ever given you any grace despite life circumstances. He’s a single man and isnt even trying to make you have a decent life. I’ll admit, I think about that sometimes. Especially that post you made about it going too far. That really resonated with me. He could have been locked up for that 100%. It is not easy to get justice for parents. Im at least really glad you still show up to everything in life despite everything. Even to this rinky dink forum. It’s really hard to deal with people who seem to go completely out of their way to be a jerk, and with the internal disgust with that person will likely not go away for a long time, if ever. But Im very glad you dont ever blame yourself. A lot of people give up when the enemy is too strong and begin to feel at fault for “not trying enough.” Your father seems like a rage baby and doesnt understand anything he’s doing. People who will blame their child before they look within themselves are selfish and dont deserve kids at all. It’s the hardest thing to go through when you know your parent or parents dont have your best interest at heart and would throw you in front of them to protect their ego while simultaneously making sure youre put down enough to always stay behind them. I am sorry you are called names. It’s harder to ignore stuff like that than it is a random troll online. It’s personal. The only thing i know that helps is dethroning someone in your mind and everything they say so it feels less impactful. Fighting back is the first thing anyone would want to do but it makes things worse every time. There’s not a single thing said that could ever change someone like that, even if it feels right inside to make yourself heard. It doesnt matter what people like your father hears. It will always be filtered through whatever mental problem he has.

I dont think there’s anything I could ever say that could lighten your load, but Im cheering you on untill you never have to see that clown ever again.