random question
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@Pԋσҽɳιx because that’s how most young relationships end? Tbh idk but that’s what it seems like
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@Burd or that
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@maybenot-finneas
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@Pԋσҽɳιx because in america, if youve been dating over a month then ppl expect sex to be involved
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@maybenot-finneas
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@maybenot-finneas Now my sexual education assignment makes sense. We’re supposed to give advice to imaginary people- and the person who wrote the assignment is american. One of them was a 14 year old talking about their 18 year old boyfriend wants to have sex after they’ve been together for a month.
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@Pԋσҽɳιx yep
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Well… me and this person broke up for like an hour or a day I don’t remember and then we ended up getting back together and we’ve been together ever since.
The song that describes it will probably be Take What You Want by Post Malone, Ozzy Osborne, and some other people.
And how I managed to cope with it is I would go through our older chats and listen to the playlist they made me and I would cry but it ended up helping me. I also got high asf so honestly it didn’t really effect me until I ended up not high and then it really got to me and I cried for days even when we got back together. -
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Someone I dated a while ago told me about how I would feel if I was in a poly relationship but them be dating two people including me and I told this person to do what makes you happy and that I would be really distant and they ended up breaking up with me to try and get with the two people they liked, got rejected, and then went to someone else and they’ve been together ever since. The rejected part still makes me laugh tbh. And the song would be Rockefeller Street bc it reminds me of this person.
How I did cope with this one I fr just laughed after crying the rest of the school day. -
@maybenot-finneas it was my frist relationship me a my gf at the time were dating for like 5 months i think idk but yea so she went online for schooling without me knowing and it made me upset that she didn’t tell me beforehand i brushed it off but she barely would talk to me and 2 weeks later my great pap died and she thought it was the best day to breakup with me but then she blamed me for the breakup when she was the one who left then broke up with me when my pap died. I told her that it wasnt my fault she left and never really talked then broke it off . I dont really have to cope with this breakup bc it was so stupid and also i have the best bf in the world now so i dont need to think abt her anymore :)
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@maybenot-finneas Warning, this is long.
I had an mpp friend.
I wouldn’t call it a relationship breakup, but I had a crazy toxic friend-breakup. I thought him and I were in sync. We talked all day, every day, every night. But. I only figured out after we lost contact that he was a narcissist. Which in case you dont know, they are very hard people to get rid of. He isolated me from creating other online friendships and when I did make friends, he manipulated me into betraying them. He made me think they were the bad guys and I could only trust him. This went on for two years. It was a pretty scary situation because he had access to my google photos (which was my fault) and used it to blackmail me to stay in our friendship. It was the most toxic, yet hardest friendship to get rid of. I spent so long in what felt like an isolated limbo because we talked in a private invisible room and he got mad if I didn’t join. He guilted/called me names for having talked to people besides him. He accused me of liking anyone I spoke to. This was wilst him being on other tabs flirting with girls every night we spoke. I spent a lot of time secretly putting together timelines when he was talking to other people and they were all while him and I spoke. They told me he asked for nudes, and flirted – even with my own friends he made me betray. I knew he was doing this but couldn’t confront him because he’d gaslight me so badly, I belived him and got even more deep in his abuse. He made fun of everyone. Even me. When I didn’t do what he wanted, he called me every name in the book. “Braindead” and “Bipolar” hurt the most. I confided in him with all of my secrets because he convinced me that he was the only one who would “put up” with me venting. He said no one would ever love me but him because I was “too broken.” One day, I tried to get away from him because I had an entire room of people on my side (after a long time of trying to regain my friendships in secret), he created public rooms exposing me, and kept them up all night untill I’d cave and apologize. I was weak and didn’t think I could ever be free from this online abuser. I had enough and quit mpp for a month. I should have done that a long time ago, but since I had no one else who knew about my home life, I thought he was the only one I could talk to. After all. I really did believe no one would put up with me but him. In that month long break, I had actually convinced myself he was right about me and that I really was bipolar. Upon coming back to mpp, I told him he was right and I needed help dealing with my “bipolar.” He said he knew he was right, and I got sucked into another era of talking to him again. Believe it or not, the tail-end of our friendship, I met Lav (went by JakeFromStatefarm at the time) and he helped me along with other great friends to overcome this narcissist’s stronghold. It had been the point where I finally fully told him off and I thought it was the end. It wasn’t. It took me a long time to fully stop talking to him. It was on and off. But I made sure to not get too deep. Although, talking to him at all was a huge risk. He kind of faded away for a bit, and Tree and I had started talking more. I told Tree about this terrible guy and then it happened to be that the day I cold-turkey let him go, Tree told me he liked me lol. Tree didn’t even know till I told him a while later. It was like a completely new beginning of my life that day.
I still think about this guy at times. Im not sure I ever did fully heal. But despite that, I rose up, began helping others with toxic friends and relationships, made many friends who I call family, and found love.