not everyone has to accept your life choices
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my moms friend is dating this guy whos clearly toxic and abusive, my mom told said friend if she dated this guy that she did not want to talk to this friend anymore and she started dating the friend. so she comes to our house all bitchy in her feelings like “you don’t wanna see me be happy” and this that and the third, and then leaves when my mom says that she doesn’t want to see her friend date a man like that who’s literally been prosecuted for those charges before. like dude. and apparently my mom is the bad friend for telling her that this man is not worth it and that she didn’t want to feel guilty if this woman was hurt or killed by this man because she didn’t want to feel responsible, to protect herself and her feelings she left this friendship. and mind you, my mother is 37, this lady is 42. like this is a grown ass woman we’re talking about thats acting like this over a horrible guy, so when you get older, people don’t change.
so this brings me to my point of, in life, not everyones gonna accept your decisions, whether that be who you date, who you talk to, who you’re friends with, the activities you join, the clique you’re apart of, anything you do really. not everyones gonna accept your decisions and sometimes you’ll see that the people around you were right and that mayybe you shouldn’t have made this decision, but regardless, not everyones gonna accept your decision, don’t make a big deal out of other people having opinions or protecting their mental health because when you think about it really, and i hate to be morbid here but, you’re the only person who will be around your entire life and through every moment and truly understand yourself. so, if other people make choices to leave, instead of bashing them for those decisions or possibly past mistakes that they’ve made that are related to that decision just let them go. we all make mistakes. we all grow. but on the other hand, if you’re cutting this person off, don’t make a big deal about it. a simple “don’t talk to me again.” suffices or maybe if you wanna explain and end things on a term of apology and not necessarily good but decent enough, that works too. so yeah.
my rant for the day thanks for reading.
TL;DR
My moms friend got all mad because my mom didn’t want to be her friend if she dated an abusive guy, she shows up to our house bitching about it, this brings me to the point of everyones not gonna accept your opinions and if you’re gonna make bad decisions don’t get mad when people leave you for it. -
People will be people. If they want to do wrong to you because you want to help them, fuck 'em. It’s not anybody’s place to teach that person. They’ll learn on their own, and they won’t like it. But, ultimately, you should never feel bad; it was their choice, not yours. You chose to help, and they chose to say fuck you.
All people do it. Everybody is human, everybody says stupid things, everybody does stupid things. So, of course, you shouldn’t care. Because then you’re caring about everything.
(when I say you I don’t mean YOU)
