@izzy-lolll It’s really tricky when you have a feeling someone’s not happy about something in their life and they’re not willing to open up. It is definitely something you can’t control, but I know it’s hard to still have that nawing feeling that you aren’t being there for your friend. The best I can tell you is allow them to warm up to the idea of opening themselves up. Not pressuing or asking for them to (which I know you don’t do :)) but reminding this friend that you will always be there for them if they need someone. I’m sure you do this, but it’s kind of all you can do for someone like this. You’re not a bad friend. You wanting to help and you showing compassion tells me, and definitely tells them, that you are a good friend. It’s just up to this person to let you in a little deeper with their personal thoughts. Allow what you to put out there to be enough for this friend. Even if you feel like you can’t measure up, no one can do the same thing. And that doesn’t make you a worse friend. Being able to help someone doesn’t go hand in hand with being a better friend than you are now. It’s the willingness to help that makes you that amazing friend.
