How did you learn to be comfortable in your own skin?
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For my people out there who have come to love themselves regardless of what other people think, how? What brought you there? Now granted, we all have our moments but I wanna know. Now let me start by saying, I am okay now before anyone asks.
In 5th grade, I developed my first crush on a girl. We’ll call her L right. Well, I remember telling my guidance counselor one day during a session, she told me that I was making things up and that it “wasn’t normal” and stuff of that sort. So, I kinda just balled it up and went back to pretending I was straight. (I came to find out last year that she felt the same way about me SMH). Then, in 6th grade, I dated a girl. Who now identifies as he/him. 7th grade, I thought I was gay, found my pronouns, he/him and I went by 3 names that year Nyx, Cameron and Finnley.
Well, last year in 8th grade, I sort of had a realization. The realization that quite frankly I didn’t give a shit anymore. Because I was tired of being what everyone else wanted me to be. I was so focused on trying to find myself that I lost myself, if that makes sense. And I started to focus on myself and my mental health last year and it made a difference, a REALLY big difference. And along the way, I learned some things about myself, ended up realizing I liked Finneas better than Finnley, ended up realizing that I didn’t need a sexuality, I just liked who I liked, and I ended up realizing that pronouns weren’t that big of a deal, I just felt more of a connection to he/him.
So I became comfortable in myself by letting go of society’s standards and boxes. This year, I dress full out emo or goth (depending on the day), I proudly listen to metal, rock, punk, goth and emo music. And I proudly am a band kid, and I play soccer and softball. I just think that this year is gonna be such a fun year. I’m in a metal band now, I just feel like I know so much more about myself.
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Also please remember its not easy to love yourself, its really not, it’s a long journey and courtesy of being an older sibling, I have a really bad people pleasing habit that I had to break because you come first and no that’s not selfish because you’re the only person who’s gonna be there through everything in your life.
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I still don’t B)
but that’s actually really wonderful for you finnmanboyperson -
@omgitsfinneas i always have been and my older brother helped me
