Practicing. (Fellow musicians welcome to vent.)

[Your Local Ghostface Simp]

I hate practicing. Now, I know that’s a stupid thing to say. “Why would you hate practicing? It’s the thing that’ll help you get better!” Shut up. I hate practicing because of my mom.
My mother is 37 years old. She started singing and playing violin when she was 4. She got into the Iowa All-State Chorus all four years of High School. She is a great musician overall. She is a private music teacher and has her own string quartet. How many people do you know have their own string quartet? Probably hardly any.

I hate having to practice in front of her. She nitpicks everything. Why does she have to be like this? I have no idea. I get and understand she wants me to be the best I can, even though I am only a freshman, but this sucks. Nearly every time I practice, I end up in tears because I try. I try, and she gets pissed. I try so god damn hard, but I can’t. I can’t do whatever it is she wants me to do.

[A Former User]

Maybe she should just shut the fuck up and let different people be different people.
Sorry if it’s an aggressive response.

[Your Local Ghostface Simp]

@Namira I wish. But she’s my own mother. And she thinks she has the right to push me past what I can do to make me better.

[A Former User]

@just-a-fkn-reaper-3-0 Why cant parents just be proud of their kids for doing good? It’s about you getting better at your own pace. It only matters that she’d be proud of you for doing good, and that is more motivation to get better than getting told to fix little things. I get she just wants you to do good like her, but cant she just let you play music happily? Nitpicking literally sucks the fun out of playing music. She might be a good player, but she sounds like an awful music teacher if she literally makes you cry :(

[Wubbrle the Wubble]

@just-a-fkn-reaper-3-0 I feel bad for you- And namira is right, she actually should shut up because shes too strict, she expects you to be the best, but it needs time . Btw Namira, For me it’s not a Aggressive response

[Your Local Ghostface Simp]

@Duchess And what makes it even worse is she teaches other kids, and doesn’t make them cry. She makes me cry.

[Wubbrle the Wubble]

@Duchess YES that’s what im talking about

[A Former User]

Nitpicking is never a good idea. It only makes you more discouraged to do said thing and it only makes you more prone to mistakes because the frustration builds up in you, and the fact that you know you can’t mess up makes you mess up. She should learn some manners and learn how to be thankful.

[Wubbrle the Wubble]

@A38 For real dude. Nitpicking can even lead to depression (I think)

[A Former User]

@just-a-fkn-reaper-3-0 There’s a difference between encouraging your kids to perform their greatest and being a unpleasable jerk who takes things more seriously than they should. You dont have to be the best. It’s not like your school is expecting more from you than any other student. Your mom just needs to chill. Maybe she stressed to be the best, but who said that’s what you want. Like Sen said, gotta let different people be different people. Kids are not mini-me’s of parents.

[your_local_carlisle_simp]

@just-a-fkn-reaper-3-0 i love piano.

I fucking hate practicing violin cause i’m always afraid i’m not good enough or i’m raping someone’s ears. Mom loves me playing and gets bratty if i don’t.

[Your Local Ghostface Simp]

@Enzi FELT.

[A Former User]

@just-a-fkn-reaper-3-0 I don’t get it. Why get so pressed at your kid for so little reason? I could maybe understand if she has disorders that cause extreme emotion, but that still isn’t an excuse for basically bullying your kid. Does she have any conditions?

[Your Local Ghostface Simp]

@The4thFemC I mean, she had shit parents that were hella mentally abusive, so I’m pretty sure she’s got like PTSD, a lil OCD, depression, and we’re pretty sure she has undiagnosed ADHD- And she’s a fucking insomniac, so she gets no damn sleep-

[your_local_carlisle_simp]

@just-a-fkn-reaper-3-0

I’m slowly getting better but i just

don’t like practicing

I don’t like taking it out, rasining the bow, playing cause im always nervous i’ll be heard when i mess up

I always feel safer with my teacher because she’s always nice and understanding and makes me motivated

There’s also an edge

i like playing for a while but once i’m done i’m done. If you still want me to play then i’m gonna be stressed

[Your Local Ghostface Simp]

@Enzi no dude, that’s so real. I love my teachers, they’re so chill. And practice rooms with no one around are my best friend.

[A Former User]

@just-a-fkn-reaper-3-0 Alright, I can get behind that. Has she ever had help or are you and yoir family trying to get her help?

[Your Local Ghostface Simp]

@The4thFemC Haha fuck no- we’re broke as hell-

[A Former User]

Wubbrle the amazing Wubble Yeah, it could. If you’re constantly being told basically what you did wasnt enough and you got to change little things here and there, it kind of makes you feel like the goal posts keep changing. And you’ll never be enough, which who wouldnt make someoen sad?

[your_local_carlisle_simp]

@just-a-fkn-reaper-3-0 or like when i go to suzuki camp (one week camp made from my books program creator for piano violin and viol)

i do piano cause i am NOT doing violin

its always so fun to practice with my friends, listen to her play, giggle together, and just have fun

but its different for everybody.

I like practicing alone for violin. then in group class i’m FORCED to play piano AND violin without me being comfortable. Then i get NERVOUS, MESS UP, then people clap even though i know they don’t like it.