[[Vent]] - De-Motivation

[A Former User]

THIS IS A VENT: I seek support, not criticism or negativity regarding my experiences with my mother. Constructive feedback and kindness are appreciated; harsh words are not. Thank you for maintaining a positive atmosphere.

I grow increasingly frustrated with my mother’s constant daily criticisms and demands for improvement. Rather than acknowledging and celebrating the progress I’ve made, such as turning four F’s into A’s and B’s, she focuses solely on what still needs to be fixed. For instance, she expects me to transform a C in World History into an A or complete an incomplete assignment immediately.

Her approach is demotivating and stressful, as she fails to recognize my achievements and instead pushes me to constantly strive for perfection. This mindset has led her to threaten taking away my computer time if I don’t improve my grades from F’s to at least B’s. As a result, I find myself preoccupied with past failures and overwhelmed by the pressure to meet her expectations.

[Rēsh-1]

@保志久美 I relate, so badly

I’m a regular honor roll student with like As and Bs anyway

[Wubbrle the Wubble...]

@保志久美 Im really sorry to hear that…

I didn’t know that your life is this frustrating, I really pray for you gurl. Amen.

[A Former User]

Wubbrle the Wubble... Thanks

[A Former User]

If someone wants another to put effort into doing better and doing good things, they need incentives. Just like you discipline someone for doing something bad to teach them they shouldn’t do it, you need to reward someone for doing good to teach them to do it more.

Pavlov’s dog experiment; ring the bell before the meal, and they will expect a meal every time they hear a ringing bell.
Give a dog a treat for doing something and they’ll do that something more.

I’ve told you in the past to talk to your mother about these things, and I believe you should inform her of what I’m saying in this particular post.

[A Former User]

@Namira That’s what I’m saying.

For the good things I do, hence bringing my grades up, I should get a brake from the “Good. Now bring up this class.”

[A Former User]

This is so stupid. Y’know, she should be PROUD of you for getting good grades, since that’s what matters. a “C” in an otherwise big shower of A’s and B’s shouldn’t in theory be a big deal, and heck, C is not that bad either when you think about it.
I hate these types of parents and people in general who make big deals about the wrongs/bads about people but completely disregard the goods. I’m gonna say it myself, good job for trying your best, because that’s all that matters.

[Wubbrle the Wubble...]

@A38 FINALLY SOMEONE’S SAYING THIS.

LIKE FR SHE SHOULD BE PROUD OF HER GETTING DECENT AND GOOD GRADES.

100% true.

[A Former User]

@A38 Are they really good???

Idk…

[Wubbrle the Wubble...]

@保志久美 Look… hear me out, don’t let your strict mom get to your feelings, your grades look fine to me.

and a A in art… wow you must be really good at art :D, congrats.

[A Former User]

Wubbrle the Wubble... It’s art History not really art :,D

[Wubbrle the Wubble...]

@保志久美 Oh

[A Former User]

@ゼフィラ-ヤラ It’s hard when parents have so much expectations since you cant just tell them to stop. I am sorry your mom is so much. Maybe you can talk to a teacher about your situation with your mom and how you feel stressed about getting your grades up. Maybe if they see you’re trying really hard for your mom to be satisfied, they’ll help you.