Sleepovers suck (TW: SA!!!) (5/24/2025)

𝜗𝜚 rylie

𝜗𝜚 rylie

Des,
I just want to let you know before I say anything that this post wont be deleted or whatever unless you personally want it to be.

Okay. Time to say some things.

First of all, I just want to say thank you for sharing this. I know it must’ve taken a lot of strength and vulnerability to put this into words, and I want you to know that I hear you and I believe you. What happened to you was not your fault in any way, and I’m so, so sorry that you had to go through something like that.

You didn’t do anything wrong. Saying “I don’t know” doesn’t mean you gave permission. It doesn’t mean you were okay with what was happening. It means you were scared, overwhelmed, and frozen in a moment where your brain and body didn’t feel safe. That response is real. It’s valid. And it’s actually very common in trauma situations — it’s called a freeze response, and it happens when someone is in danger but doesn’t know how to escape or can’t find the words to fight back. Your body was trying to protect you in the only way it could. You are not weak for that.

It’s devastating that someone not only crossed your boundaries but ignored the signs that you were uncomfortable, scared, and not okay. That was a violation of your trust, and it never should’ve happened. And the fact that she’s younger doesn’t excuse anything. What she did was manipulative and predatory. Age doesn’t erase harm.

I can feel how much this has affected you, because I’ve been through things like this before too. The anger, confusion, sadness, and shame, and I just want you to know that none of those feelings are your fault. You’re not overreacting. You’re not being dramatic. You’re reacting like a human being who was hurt in a situation where you didn’t feel safe, and that’s completely valid.

I’m proud of you for telling Bradlee. That took courage. And I’m glad he listened and believed you. Even if he couldn’t fix what happened, having someone in your corner who takes you seriously matters. I know the idea of parents finding out can feel terrifying, especially with the fear of things blowing up or getting worse but please don’t ever feel like you’re responsible for protecting her or anyone else from the consequences of what she did. You are not the one who created this situation, she did.

If and when you’re ready, I really encourage you to talk to someone who can help more directly a counselor, therapist, or trusted adult who knows how to handle this stuff. Especially if they didn’t tell their parents about this. You deserve support, not silence. You shouldn’t have to carry this alone. I know it might feel overwhelming or scary to open that door, but there are people who can guide you through it.

You are not useless. You are not worthless. You are not broken. What happened to you was wrong, but it doesn’t define who you are. You’re still whole. Still worthy of love, respect, and safety. And I’m really proud of you for being brave enough to speak up even if it didn’t feel brave at the time.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me if you want someone to talk to, vent to, or just sit with you in this. You’re not alone in this, even if it sometimes feels like it. I’ll listen and I’ll be here for you every step of the way.

This isn’t going to go away but it’s a good thing to talk to someone about it that has gone through something similar because then they know how to maybe help and comfort more. Trust me, I’ve been through this. You can talk to me whenever and I’ll tell you everything.

𝜗𝜚 rylie hoooly shit i totally forgot I posted this, because I’ve kind of just pushed this out of my mind, and I quite literally almost started sobbing- ~~you’re too nice to be hereeeeeeee <33~~