Man.
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I just don’t see how some of you guys manage to pretend you like people. There is this one person, we’ll call her Maddie. She goes to my school and shes friends with a lot of my friends but I don’t like her. She’s loud, arrogant, annoying, and pissy, to me. She has an issue with being open about how she feels and instead of just stating how she feels, she says shes “afraid of the backlash” and will just make little snarky remarks like “okay sure.” or she’ll make sound effects like clicking her tongue and things of that nature. It’s so annoying to me. I hate when people can’t be open about their opinions, it usually means they’re insecure and so worried about people liking them that they won’t just be open in their opinion. People like that are annoying to me. So, I stopped talking to her, I blocked here everywhere, I didn’t make a big deal about it, I just genuinely didn’t want to interact with her anymore because she’s not a person I see myself being friends with. So another of my friends, we’ll call Kelly, texts me and is like “Do you still have Maddie blocked? I just really think you two should try to sort out your differences for the good of our friend group.” So I unblocked her, we talked for a bit. I asked her to stop doing those things because of the fact that it was just annoying to me, it got to the point where I genuinely couldn’t stand her. I asked her to sometimes just be quiet, and to stop being so snarky about things when she says them because she’s just a person like that. She says she will, she doesn’t. She hasn’t stopped yet. And I’m to the point in life now where I realize boundaries are rules with yourself, not rules with other people. So I blocked her again. Maddie will not be getting unblocked this time. I’ll still be cordial to her and I’ll still talk to her in a friendly manner however I have no interest in being close with her as Kelly wants. Kelly confronted me today about it and was like “That’s just how she is, you’re being a dick about it Xander.” Am I really being a dick for protecting my own personal peace? So I guess this whole situation has brought me to the realization that maybe, just maybe, I need to rethink some of my friendships. But that’s all. Thanks for listening to my vent! Have a great day!
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If a friend group wants you to force yourself to get along with a person you genuinely don’t like just “for the sake of them,” I personally wouldn’t consider them my friends and distance myself from the group. Because, to be honest, fuck that, I’ll hate who I hate.
I don’t like people for your benefit nor do I hate people for your benefit.And on the personal belief side I think Kelly is a bitch.
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Listen, borrowed. Don’t let others intervene between your personal relationships with somebody. It’s natural to not like somebody. Nobody should force you to change your mind, even if all your friend like this one person that you don’t. It’s absolutely scummy to force others to get along, and it just causes more problems rather than solving them. I can empathize with you, I’ve been through this exact situation once, just in a more roundabout way.
