Vent <3 TW!! Suicide, Narcissistic mothers, Self-Harm, Depression, Knives, Tall heights, and Other.

[A Former User]

This is horrible and all but uh,

[Bandit]

@Calistaa

[A Former User]

@Calistaa I know that’s Why I added a TW. People can see the triggers before they even click the Post and they can Just Mark as read or skip.

I’m just tryna vent here man :,|

[A Former User]

@Haven But- adding a trigger warning doesn’t fix anything- w- h u h.
Whatever though, who follows that rule?
Hope you feel better

[A Former User]

@Calistaa I don’t think anyone follows the rules anymore

Thanks

[A Former User]

@Calistaa said in Vent <3 TW!! Suicide, Narcissistic mothers, Self-Harm, Depression, Knives, Tall heights, and Other.:

adding a trigger warning doesn’t fix anything

It kinda does tho, It warns people what topics are going to be discussed about to avoid being triggered. Thats kinda why It’s called a Trigger warning :p

[Bandit]

@Haven

[finn.in.outer.space.]

@Calistaa nah ive made posts expressing my suicidal thoughts and no one really says anything

[A Former User]

@finn-dfw-u -._-.

[A Former User]

@InvalidBandit True Hehe

[Bandit]

@Haven Then follow them yourself.

[A Former User]

@InvalidBandit That’s fr my face when I don’t follow the rules I fr don’t care hehe

Cause Nobody else followed them

Besides this is a vent and Its so easy to either block me or Mark the post as read ;p

[Bandit]

@Haven Srry came back but um- you should kinda care, that’s all I’m going to say :/

[A Former User]

@Haven Imagine someone making a thoughtful vent and then people come and say “you’re breaking the rules” lol

[finn.in.outer.space.]

@Duchess exactly, thats part of what makes me mad, i mean its just like, someones clearly put a TW and they’re asking for help and you’re worried about the rules which dont get me wrong are important but not more important that someone getting help they need.

yes it is, but if it was a problem the moderators would say something about it and they haven’t said anyting about it yet

[A Former User]

@Haven Firstly, sorry I wrote so much about each paragraph. I feel very strong about your story. And I really don’t want to sound corny, but when I first read your stories in the past, I couldn’t wait to reply, but I wasn’t sure how. Secondly, your posts a while ago, I saved a doc replying to them a long time ago, and I was meaning to share it back then, but… then time went by and I wasn’t sure if it’d be weird now or anything. I wanted to make a whole post one day since it had been so long but I really didn’t want to seem like I was calling you out or anything. I responded to each paragraph labeled below:

(Part 1) “(This happened yesterday Feb, 26 2023)”
Even if your mom doesn’t agree with the lgtbq’s, it’s not like she should lie that she supports you and then not actually support you. I mean, she doesn’t have to support something she believes goes against her religion, but she should still love you and treat you right. You’re her child, so it’s just the right thing to do. I think she wanted to accept you for being bi and non binary to make you feel happy, but didn’t really want to since she doesn’t really agree with it. But lying about how she felt wasn’t really right in my opinion. I think what she should have said from the beginning was the truth, like, “I may not agree with you, but I’ll still always love you,” or something like that. Everyone naturally disagrees and judges others, but I feel like we should not treat people poorly just because people’s beliefs collide with ours. But also, you should not lie about it just because you’re afraid of how someone would react. A part of being your mom is for her to be honest. It hurts more if she reveals that stuff later on than if she just said how she felt in the first place. If it hurts, it hurts, but at least you wouldn’t have been deceived from the beginning, yknow?

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@Haven I see that you’ve been through a lot, and I truly hope that your mental well-being hasn’t degraded to the point of becoming your major problem due to any causes that may be. Whether it’s your parent’s interference, attempts at suicide and the big one of them all, depression, you’ve been the fighter - pushing your way out of these moments, and having the strong heart to manage each one of them, to then make aware the reality of your situations to others. I understand these delicate concepts, for you’re obviously not alone - although some widely contrast, the main point here remains very real. Struggles can be hard to process, but what should always happen in this context, is getting the resolution and acceptance that you very well deserve, not only because you are loved, but also because there is nothing wrong with what you want to be. There should never be. But as for some individuals that despise certain things but their own requirements, that they think are the only correct way out for their children, it can seem unlivable and hopeless.
And these things can very well influence other parts of the mind. In your dreams, as you state, previous happenings and thoughts impact the functions as to what emerges into a dream. This is frankly a real fact, and in general it happens all the time. But always having troubling dreams very frequently is of concern.
Nevertheless, we’re thankful to have you, and to have learnt about these diary entries - it has showed and explained a lot to me, and has given me time to dedicate some thought about your troubles.
And I’m very thankful you have a Therapist. Having someone to legitimately discuss these things with is a vital choice

[A Former User]

@Haven
(Part 2) “(This happened last year)”
This is the story I wanted to reply to last year, so I’m glad you mentioned it again.

“Oh so you thought you could hide it from me? You thought I wouldn’t Notice"

When your mom said this, all I could think of was one person I know. And they say those exact types of phrases. Which, these things your mom says to you, they’re just huge assumptions she creates in her head because she feels threatened. Let me explain what I mean. Most parents want to control what their kids do and raise them a certain way, which is pretty normal. But narcissists think that their kid is always trying to disobey them since they have an extremely fragile ego that they can’t let be messed with by anyone, let alone “disobedient kids.” Threats to their parenting skills and control are huge triggers. Narcissists can never be told they’re wrong. And the worst part of being the child of a narcissist is when they make huge assumptions about things you do. They’re hyper conscious about who’s trying to “get” or “pull one over” on them. And since narcissists are very scared that people are after them and their power, they will attack you. This creates that feeling of having to walk on eggshells because you don’t know when the narcissist will make up another assumption and attack you once again. And it’s not even like you can just tell them they’re wrong, either. Because you can’t.

[A Former User]

holy shit ill fr have to read this when my eyes don’t hurt and when im not on phone