Regrets?
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@Cozy-Talk People sometimes end up missing the opportunity to tell someone something before it was too late. It is a regret people carry, but people end up regretting a lot of things in life that they wish they did but didnβt. It is important to always forgive yourself in these situations because no one can predict the future. No one can know when to act and when they will never have that opportunity again. And that is okay.
When I was in middle school, there was this kid I knew that had apparently said a weird joke to some girl, and she was loudly shaming him for it. He seemed embarrassed and put his head down and was sad. I personally noticed that his best friend had started not sitting by him anymore and sat with other people, completely ignoring him at lunch. I wish I had the confidence at the time to talk to him and somehow make him feel better. Maybe show him I noticed him. And cared. I think about that incident sometimes.
I know one thing, though. Regret gets you nowhere in life. It is okay to feel regret, but it is what you do with it that matters. You can feel bad for what you didnt do or say to someone forever or learn to use that desire for a different outcome to make better choices in the future. I might not have much more confidence today than I did then, but one day, someone will be in a similar situation and I will do my best to help them even if Iβm a little nervous.
What is something you wish you did or said to someone but didnt?
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Duchess i wish i hadnt apologized for having an opinion to someone. i was blinded by the fact i thought id be lost without them and i apologized for things i wasnt even wrong for. i feel bad for making myself feel like everything was my fault when it really wasnβt
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Duchess I wish i ended my friendship with carrie sooner it was obvoius that she was toxic. But she ended the friendship for me.
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What is something you wish you did or said to someone but didnt?
A couple months ago I had a nice group of friends, it was small but decent. I had a trio inside of the group as well though I was somewhat close with the other. Around September, maybe October, I started getting drowned with school. I wasnβt able to get my phone till late at night and the time that I did have access to my phone, I didnβt spend it with my friends, I spent it with my boyfriend and other βfriend.β Now I loved the time I spent with my boyfriend and the endless conversations we had and I donβt regret that one bit. However, I chose to befriend a girl our entire group hated. I didnβt see much wrong with it originally, especially since it seemed she had changed and was βgenuinelyβ sorry for everything she said and did. I did tell them about her apology and all, but by the time me and her were friends, I knew me and my group had drifted away, or more so, I drifted away. And I was fine with that, actually I was feeling emotional a couple days before and decided to write a diary entry where I wrote how I felt about my friends. Clearly our friendship wasnβt gonna last, but I still wanted to help fix it. Then, another one of my friends, I remember it clearly, I was laying down in bed, it was either Saturday or Friday, when I got a long paragraph from her about how she felt about me (Wasnβt the best night). I didnβt respond 'till later on considering I was scared and didnβt know how too. A couple days after we were fine, or so I thought. We were having somewhat normal conversations again. But then again, I got flooded with school, I donβt think anyone knew that though. I stopped talking to everyone all together, except the one girl everyone hated. I called her every night and they knew that, I even called her my best friend once (In my Discord status). Not too long after I got paragraphs from all of them. Iβm not going to go into detail, but basically I picked up I wasnβt liked anymore and there was no fixing it. I only responded to one of them, the easiest one to respond too (I was kind of having a βpanic attackβ so anything I said didnβt even make sense lol). I was planning on responding to everyone, but I couldnβt. I couldnβt face the two girl who I loved and cared for. So I blocked them all on everything I could think of. I blocked them here, Roblox, TikTok, anything they couldβve contacted me with. I didnβt block them because I hated them, I blocked them because I hated myself and couldnβt accept the fact I was the problem. To this very day, I think about them a lot, I even quit playing the games we used to play (Roblox games, Fortnite, etc.). I fell into sort of a sad period. Literally anything and everything couldβve made me cry. I got over it once Thanksgiving hit, thank God. But I always wondered what wouldβve happened if I had called them once. Or if I had invited them to play something with me. Or maybe if I had responded once I cooled down.
So yeah, I regret not doing anything to prevent that.
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@Miss_Americana Wow thatβs long. My baddddd
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I wish I left my old friend group's faster. I also wish I had taken care of myself more
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Duchess throughout everything and every mistake that ive done or made, i dont regret anything because im slowly believing that all the mistakes and bad shit that ive done it makes me the person i am now. i wish i didnt do some things but i dont regret anything. some people dont believe that and have other thoughts on that but i dont regret anything that ive done. the one thing that i do kinda hate myself for is making myself believe that people always care and will be there for you because even if someone is nice and kind to you doesnt mean that they havent talked shit or betrayed you.
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I wish that I had told my dad how I feel about my step mom sooner before he had already married her.
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@Miss_Americana Honestly, after reading all of that, if I were in your shoes I wouldnβt regret it at all. If they hate someone and refuse to let you talk to that person at all, thatβs not on you, thatβs on them. Theyβre trying to gatekeep who you are and arenβt friends with under the threat of the storybook-old threat, commonly used by idiotic children: βI wonβt be your friend anymore!!β
They were clearly toxic, like a girlfriend that doesnβt let you have female friends just because sheβs βjealous.β Good on you for blocking them, actually. <3
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Cursed Cucumber Not to get in your business but I do agree. Your brother has told me a bit about her and I donβt like her even though I donβt even know her π€£
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rylie omgg sheβs the worst lmao
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Duchess i wish i told my best friend that i loved him and i was sorry for saying stuff about his brother before he took his life
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I regret and i wish i could go back in time to do not let my mother go to the supermarket, or simply go with her. as you may know (or not) i live in a fucked up place in frankfurt where people are madmans and drive like there was no tomorrow, so when my mother was heading to the supermarket, a dude which i will never forgive ran her over with a truck, i still wonder if she ever saw that vehicle coming or it was just peaceful for a short time until it came speeding.
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@Miss_Americana Wow, Im sorry that happened. I know it is hard to accept how people feel about you. I feel like they werent exactly nice about it or even open to you changing since they said there was no fixing it. That is sad. I definitely understand the feeling though. Quitting those games you played with your old friends. I did that once becuase I made a huge mistake I made. I just wanted nothing to do with my friends. Even though itβs hard to think about what could have happened, I hope you make good solid friends who, yes, are honest, but also will not let the things they dont like stop you guys from still being friends. I feel like they should have tried making you feel better. But. Itβs the past now, and I think thatβs a good thing lol
{_πππ_} It is not easy to let go of friend groups because when you leave, you want something to lean back on. And thereβs also that hope that the situation will get better. It takes a while to diagnose situations early before it gets bad, but you will learn how to. It might feel like youβre not giving people a chance, but itβs a much better than leaving your feelings in the dust.
I think that is a good way of thinking to be honest. Every mistake is a lesson if you at least take it that way.
Cursed Cucumber Yes.
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I regret falling asleep when my girlfriend tells me not to
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Getting kicked from TRR (The Roleplay Room) for not stopping immediately when told.
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@Flandre-Scarlet SHE DIED!? :(
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Burd I hear you on a personal level.
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Having found MPP back in 2015
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my exβs and dealin wit bullshit. being nice mostly