My bf is genuinely pissing me off
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Listen, I love him. I love him a lot, okay?
But heโs been coming to me for everything, because heโs been shutting everyone out, and cutting people off.Now, let me preface this with usually, I donโt have a problem with this, but he did something that I didnโt want him to (said some stuff I never said was okay to share), and so I kind of have withdrew a bit from him. He knows this is what he gets because of it. Iโve made it clear I will withdraw for a while.
However, Iโve mostly moved on, and Iโve told him that.
So when Iโm trying to tell him that getting sleep is actually important, and then he proceeds to turn on DND, tell me he doesnโt want to hear the โbullshit lectureโ I give him each time, and say โRight now I kind of hate everyone. I am not in the mood for anyones bs.โ in a GC with me, and two other friends of mine, yeah. Heโs starting to piss me off, because heโs being pissy and shutting people out for no fucking reason.He had reason to cut one person off, but that was for mental health reasons. Being snippy towards everyone else and cutting them off and ignoring them is uncalled for.
God forbid I try to fucking make sure you take care of yourself, and make sure youโre not gettng 5 hours of sleep a night, and are actually getting what you need.
God fucking forbid.
Heโs genuinely pissing me off so much right now.
Like if you have fucking problems, say them to my face. Donโt be a little bitch and turn on DND and ignore people.
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โฅใ๐๐๐๐๐พใโฅ Iโm really sorry youโre dealing with all of that. Honestly, reading this hurt my heart a little because I can tell how much you genuinely care about him and how badly you just want him to be okay. Itโs exhausting when youโre trying so hard to care for someone, check on them, make sure theyโre sleeping, eating, taking care of themselves, and instead of feeling appreciated, it feels like theyโre shutting you out or snapping at you for even trying. That kind of thing really does hurt, especially when all your intentions are coming from love.
And I completely understand why youโre upset about the communication too. Being ignored, put on DND, or feeling like someone suddenly doesnโt want to talk to you can make you feel pushed away even if that wasnโt their intention. I know people go through things mentally and sometimes isolate themselves, but that doesnโt make it hurt any less for the people who care about them.
I donโt wanna make this about me at all, but me and my boyfriend have been having some problems too, and I understand that feeling of loving someone so much while also feeling frustrated, hurt, and confused by the distance between you. Itโs such a hard feeling because you wanna be there for them no matter what, but at the same time you start wondering why caring has to feel so painful sometimes.
I just hope you know your feelings are valid. Wanting communication, honesty, and basic respect from someone you love isnโt asking for too much. I really hope things get better for you both soon, because I can tell you care about him deeply. -
โฅใ๐๐๐๐๐พใโฅ i think the only way he can start working on improving his mental health is if he is doing it for himself and not for the sake of anyone else. Thats why it might feel frustrating that despite your best efforts it feels nothing is helping. I donโt know much about your relationship but from what you wrote Iโd say the best thing you can do is be there for him and support him but let him figure out how to get back on track on his ownโฆ
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Pheo also I wrote that at 11 pm so I might not be in the best state of mind for giving advice but I just hope your situation gets better ๐
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โฅใ๐๐๐๐๐พใโฅ try talking to him about it? Might help
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KayaRoseWho I did. Heโsโฆtrying. Itโs better than it was, but itโs still rough.
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I wish I knew who you were
but thank you dawgalawg -
โฅใ๐๐๐๐๐พใโฅ new who?
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โฅใ๐๐๐๐๐พใโฅ it will get better โค๏ธ
