My bf is genuinely pissing me off
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Listen, I love him. I love him a lot, okay?
But he’s been coming to me for everything, because he’s been shutting everyone out, and cutting people off.Now, let me preface this with usually, I don’t have a problem with this, but he did something that I didn’t want him to (said some stuff I never said was okay to share), and so I kind of have withdrew a bit from him. He knows this is what he gets because of it. I’ve made it clear I will withdraw for a while.
However, I’ve mostly moved on, and I’ve told him that.
So when I’m trying to tell him that getting sleep is actually important, and then he proceeds to turn on DND, tell me he doesn’t want to hear the ‘bullshit lecture’ I give him each time, and say “Right now I kind of hate everyone. I am not in the mood for anyones bs.” in a GC with me, and two other friends of mine, yeah. He’s starting to piss me off, because he’s being pissy and shutting people out for no fucking reason.He had reason to cut one person off, but that was for mental health reasons. Being snippy towards everyone else and cutting them off and ignoring them is uncalled for.
God forbid I try to fucking make sure you take care of yourself, and make sure you’re not gettng 5 hours of sleep a night, and are actually getting what you need.
God fucking forbid.
He’s genuinely pissing me off so much right now.
Like if you have fucking problems, say them to my face. Don’t be a little bitch and turn on DND and ignore people.
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♥『𝑀𝑜𝓍𝓍𝒾』♥ I’m really sorry you’re dealing with all of that. Honestly, reading this hurt my heart a little because I can tell how much you genuinely care about him and how badly you just want him to be okay. It’s exhausting when you’re trying so hard to care for someone, check on them, make sure they’re sleeping, eating, taking care of themselves, and instead of feeling appreciated, it feels like they’re shutting you out or snapping at you for even trying. That kind of thing really does hurt, especially when all your intentions are coming from love.
And I completely understand why you’re upset about the communication too. Being ignored, put on DND, or feeling like someone suddenly doesn’t want to talk to you can make you feel pushed away even if that wasn’t their intention. I know people go through things mentally and sometimes isolate themselves, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less for the people who care about them.
I don’t wanna make this about me at all, but me and my boyfriend/husband have been having some problems too, and I understand that feeling of loving someone so much while also feeling frustrated, hurt, and confused by the distance between you. It’s such a hard feeling because you wanna be there for them no matter what, but at the same time you start wondering why caring has to feel so painful sometimes.
I just hope you know your feelings are valid. Wanting communication, honesty, and basic respect from someone you love isn’t asking for too much. I really hope things get better for you both soon, because I can tell you care about him deeply.
