My bf is genuinely pissing me off
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Listen, I love him. I love him a lot, okay?
But heβs been coming to me for everything, because heβs been shutting everyone out, and cutting people off.Now, let me preface this with usually, I donβt have a problem with this, but he did something that I didnβt want him to (said some stuff I never said was okay to share), and so I kind of have withdrew a bit from him. He knows this is what he gets because of it. Iβve made it clear I will withdraw for a while.
However, Iβve mostly moved on, and Iβve told him that.
So when Iβm trying to tell him that getting sleep is actually important, and then he proceeds to turn on DND, tell me he doesnβt want to hear the βbullshit lectureβ I give him each time, and say βRight now I kind of hate everyone. I am not in the mood for anyones bs.β in a GC with me, and two other friends of mine, yeah. Heβs starting to piss me off, because heβs being pissy and shutting people out for no fucking reason.He had reason to cut one person off, but that was for mental health reasons. Being snippy towards everyone else and cutting them off and ignoring them is uncalled for.
God forbid I try to fucking make sure you take care of yourself, and make sure youβre not gettng 5 hours of sleep a night, and are actually getting what you need.
God fucking forbid.
Heβs genuinely pissing me off so much right now.
Like if you have fucking problems, say them to my face. Donβt be a little bitch and turn on DND and ignore people.
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β₯γπππππΎγβ₯ Iβm really sorry youβre dealing with all of that. Honestly, reading this hurt my heart a little because I can tell how much you genuinely care about him and how badly you just want him to be okay. Itβs exhausting when youβre trying so hard to care for someone, check on them, make sure theyβre sleeping, eating, taking care of themselves, and instead of feeling appreciated, it feels like theyβre shutting you out or snapping at you for even trying. That kind of thing really does hurt, especially when all your intentions are coming from love.
And I completely understand why youβre upset about the communication too. Being ignored, put on DND, or feeling like someone suddenly doesnβt want to talk to you can make you feel pushed away even if that wasnβt their intention. I know people go through things mentally and sometimes isolate themselves, but that doesnβt make it hurt any less for the people who care about them.
I donβt wanna make this about me at all, but me and my boyfriend have been having some problems too, and I understand that feeling of loving someone so much while also feeling frustrated, hurt, and confused by the distance between you. Itβs such a hard feeling because you wanna be there for them no matter what, but at the same time you start wondering why caring has to feel so painful sometimes.
I just hope you know your feelings are valid. Wanting communication, honesty, and basic respect from someone you love isnβt asking for too much. I really hope things get better for you both soon, because I can tell you care about him deeply. -
β₯γπππππΎγβ₯ i think the only way he can start working on improving his mental health is if he is doing it for himself and not for the sake of anyone else. Thats why it might feel frustrating that despite your best efforts it feels nothing is helping. I donβt know much about your relationship but from what you wrote Iβd say the best thing you can do is be there for him and support him but let him figure out how to get back on track on his ownβ¦
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Pheo also I wrote that at 11 pm so I might not be in the best state of mind for giving advice but I just hope your situation gets better π
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β₯γπππππΎγβ₯ try talking to him about it? Might help
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KayaRoseWho I did. Heβsβ¦trying. Itβs better than it was, but itβs still rough.
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I wish I knew who you were
but thank you dawgalawg -
β₯γπππππΎγβ₯ new who?
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β₯γπππππΎγβ₯ it will get better β€οΈ
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