Hello, I’ve been busy this summer. I’m all moved into university now. I met a girl that I’ve been talking to for a while and I like her a lot. I think I can trust her but I’m not exactly sure, I might ask her out sometime soon. My classes are easy so far, I took some summer courses and stuff so I’m ready for that. My dorm-mate is someone I’ve known since elementary, me and him were never close but I like him. He’s pretty cool. But yeah, that’s my update. I’ll be on more now that I’m settled into college.

I am aware that I just arrived here however, I would like to make it known that women can be abusers too. Yesterday, my ex-girlfriend, who I’ll call Mel (not her real name) came to get her stuff and it reminded me of this community and how many people online date here. I’d like to make everyone aware that you can be a victim as a male.

Me and Mel lived in the same city, however, we met on Omegle about 3 years back. We exchanged numbers, FaceTimed/called a lot and eventually, we ended up meeting up at a coffee shop, realizing we went to the same school and well, it went on from there. About 6 months into our friendship, she confessed feelings and I reciprocated them. We started dating about 2 weeks later and for the first 3 months everything was great. We were in the honeymoon stage, every day we hung out together, we were like “couple goals” at my school. Things first went downhill when my band got together. She complained about me not loving her enough to spend everyday with her and how I should mean more to her than some stupid guy group because we’d get married one day. So I explained to her that they were more than just guys and that we made music and loved it. She ignored me for about 3 weeks, then came back apologizing for being immature, I took her back. Then she started manipulating me into not even spending time with my own family. I was being isolated from everyone. We couldn’t even have a conversation without her lovebombing me or asking me for intercourse. I told her that I’d rather wait until marriage and every time she’d accuse me of not loving her more than my religion. She’d blame me for every issue in our relationship and then be lovey the next minute. She’d hit me a lot as “flirting” even if I asked her to stop. She constantly broke my boundaries and it was a cycle. Then I found out she cheated on me, I tried to leave her and she accused me of being wrong for it because “If I cheated with other guys and still came back, doesn’t that show how loyal I am?” I blocked her and she started stalking and following me and begging me to talk to her. I was scared for my own safety a lot of the time. She threatened to kill me. We got back together a few months later, by this time it was about 8 months ago. She cheated again. This time I left and never looked back. I moved schools and avoided her at all costs. I saw her once in a grocery store and I broke down. She tore me down mentally in ways I cannot describe, constantly being gaslighted, told everythings your fault, hit and dealing with bruises and having to explain them was the worst. My family hated her but I couldn’t leave her because I was scared and too blind to see that she’d never leave me alone until I put my foot down. When she came to get her stuff last night, all I had to say was fuck you. And then I slammed the door right in her face.

So yes. Women can be abusers too. I feel like not enough men speak up about it because we’re called “pussies” for being dominated when, abuse can go both ways and the fact people are too blind to see that baffles me, genuinely.

Hello there, my name is Borrowed Time. But you may call me Borrow, Borrowed or Time. I’m a gamer. I like Elden Ring, Apex Legends, Legend of Zelda, things of that sort. I’m a fan of classical and jazz music mainly, however, I do like some rock and metal such as Deftones, CheVelle, Flyleaf, Skillet, and System of a Down. I’m religious, I won’t disclose which faith as I don’t see why that is important, though I do want to say that I do not think it’s okay in any way, shape or form to force your religion or religious beliefs on others. Trying to force yours on me will be an immediate block, I have no attachment to this community and I will have no issue blocking you. You probably do not know me as I’ve never used this name on MPP. But, you probably have met me on MPP, I won’t disclose my ID from MPP. I have a habit of not fully committing to things so there’s no room to say that I won’t just up and leave one day and never return. I’ll be adding to my profile as soon as I figure out the controls of this.

I hope you have a very blessed day, and thank you for reading. I look forward to integrating myself as a part of this community.

TikTok slang confuses me.

I just don’t see how some of you guys manage to pretend you like people. There is this one person, we’ll call her Maddie. She goes to my school and shes friends with a lot of my friends but I don’t like her. She’s loud, arrogant, annoying, and pissy, to me. She has an issue with being open about how she feels and instead of just stating how she feels, she says shes “afraid of the backlash” and will just make little snarky remarks like “okay sure.” or she’ll make sound effects like clicking her tongue and things of that nature. It’s so annoying to me. I hate when people can’t be open about their opinions, it usually means they’re insecure and so worried about people liking them that they won’t just be open in their opinion. People like that are annoying to me. So, I stopped talking to her, I blocked here everywhere, I didn’t make a big deal about it, I just genuinely didn’t want to interact with her anymore because she’s not a person I see myself being friends with. So another of my friends, we’ll call Kelly, texts me and is like “Do you still have Maddie blocked? I just really think you two should try to sort out your differences for the good of our friend group.” So I unblocked her, we talked for a bit. I asked her to stop doing those things because of the fact that it was just annoying to me, it got to the point where I genuinely couldn’t stand her. I asked her to sometimes just be quiet, and to stop being so snarky about things when she says them because she’s just a person like that. She says she will, she doesn’t. She hasn’t stopped yet. And I’m to the point in life now where I realize boundaries are rules with yourself, not rules with other people. So I blocked her again. Maddie will not be getting unblocked this time. I’ll still be cordial to her and I’ll still talk to her in a friendly manner however I have no interest in being close with her as Kelly wants. Kelly confronted me today about it and was like “That’s just how she is, you’re being a dick about it Xander.” Am I really being a dick for protecting my own personal peace? So I guess this whole situation has brought me to the realization that maybe, just maybe, I need to rethink some of my friendships. But that’s all. Thanks for listening to my vent! Have a great day!

I graduated, a year early because I wanted to but I did it. I survived high school. Most hell-like 3 years of my life.

If someone can’t even take the time to respond to you then you have every right to cut them off.

Asher Dean I don’t know if this is gonna mean much coming from me, a stranger, but I’m proud that you haven’t yet. Everyone has thoughts of relapsing back to those kinds of things, addictions aren’t easy to get over, however the fact that you are coming to this community to talk about it and you haven’t yet makes you stronger than most people including myself. My advice to you is to stay strong and lean on people close to you, if you have a lover, talk to them, journal, you’ll make it!! And as for other people being okay above yourself, that’s not a good mindset, on planes, they tell you to put your oxygen mask on before anyone else, that’s for a reason! You can’t save anyone else before you save yourself.

You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.

@laraiia Thank you! I’ve been in therapy and I’m doing much better now!

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Hello, I’ve been busy this summer. I’m all moved into university now. I met a girl that I’ve been talking to for a while and I like her a lot. I think I can trust her but I’m not exactly sure, I might ask her out sometime soon. My classes are easy so far, I took some summer courses and stuff so I’m ready for that. My dorm-mate is someone I’ve known since elementary, me and him were never close but I like him. He’s pretty cool. But yeah, that’s my update. I’ll be on more now that I’m settled into college.

finneass <33 I love sevendust!

I graduated, a year early because I wanted to but I did it. I survived high school. Most hell-like 3 years of my life.

Asher Dean I don’t know if this is gonna mean much coming from me, a stranger, but I’m proud that you haven’t yet. Everyone has thoughts of relapsing back to those kinds of things, addictions aren’t easy to get over, however the fact that you are coming to this community to talk about it and you haven’t yet makes you stronger than most people including myself. My advice to you is to stay strong and lean on people close to you, if you have a lover, talk to them, journal, you’ll make it!! And as for other people being okay above yourself, that’s not a good mindset, on planes, they tell you to put your oxygen mask on before anyone else, that’s for a reason! You can’t save anyone else before you save yourself.

Infina-Phoenix I appreciate you, good sir.

You know, I’d like to double it and give it to the next person

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I just don’t see how some of you guys manage to pretend you like people. There is this one person, we’ll call her Maddie. She goes to my school and shes friends with a lot of my friends but I don’t like her. She’s loud, arrogant, annoying, and pissy, to me. She has an issue with being open about how she feels and instead of just stating how she feels, she says shes “afraid of the backlash” and will just make little snarky remarks like “okay sure.” or she’ll make sound effects like clicking her tongue and things of that nature. It’s so annoying to me. I hate when people can’t be open about their opinions, it usually means they’re insecure and so worried about people liking them that they won’t just be open in their opinion. People like that are annoying to me. So, I stopped talking to her, I blocked here everywhere, I didn’t make a big deal about it, I just genuinely didn’t want to interact with her anymore because she’s not a person I see myself being friends with. So another of my friends, we’ll call Kelly, texts me and is like “Do you still have Maddie blocked? I just really think you two should try to sort out your differences for the good of our friend group.” So I unblocked her, we talked for a bit. I asked her to stop doing those things because of the fact that it was just annoying to me, it got to the point where I genuinely couldn’t stand her. I asked her to sometimes just be quiet, and to stop being so snarky about things when she says them because she’s just a person like that. She says she will, she doesn’t. She hasn’t stopped yet. And I’m to the point in life now where I realize boundaries are rules with yourself, not rules with other people. So I blocked her again. Maddie will not be getting unblocked this time. I’ll still be cordial to her and I’ll still talk to her in a friendly manner however I have no interest in being close with her as Kelly wants. Kelly confronted me today about it and was like “That’s just how she is, you’re being a dick about it Xander.” Am I really being a dick for protecting my own personal peace? So I guess this whole situation has brought me to the realization that maybe, just maybe, I need to rethink some of my friendships. But that’s all. Thanks for listening to my vent! Have a great day!

Imagine if we’re all in a video game, and “night” is when your character disconnects in the real world. And coma’s are when people go offline for extensive periods of time. What if death is really when we come to life? What if this is “heaven” and we just don’t know it?