I feel really invalidated, and that my mom isn't letting me defend myself, and now I'm grounded.
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I have an issue with picking at scabs, especially from old acne or something similar.
The feeling of them just bothers me, so I pick them off.
Yes, this does cause it to take longer to heal, which in turn causes me to pick at them more.
Sometimes, I just sit and pick at them in the bathroom for minutes on end, sometimes losing track of time.
Except my mom gets really pissy at me when I do it.
I was doing it again tonight after dinner for a little bit and she asked me what I was doing.
I told her I went to the bathroom (which was true), and just kind of sat there. (Which was also true, for a moment.)
She didnβt believe me. I told her that I wasnβt fucking lying, which technically I wasnβt.
I didnβt want to tell her about the picking because I knew sheβd get upset about it.
She still didnβt believe me.
Eventually I told her, and she got pissed.
She said I need to knock it off.
I tried to tell her that I wasnβt doing anything else, and she kept shutting me down and calling me a fucking liar.
And now because I didnβt fucking tell her, Iβm grounded from my phone. I donβt know for how long. (I guess itβs a damn good thing I donβt go on here on my phone, and Iβm on my laptop.)
But now, sheβs probably going to go through my phone and find out I have a boyfriend, and then get pissed I havenβt told her yet. (Itβs been a month. Weβve been dating for a month.)
Iβm fucking livid.
She hardly goes through my phone.
Only when Iβm grounded.
Thatβs it.
No other time.
All I did was not tell her I was skin picking, because I always get shut down when I try to explain myself.
Whenever I try to explain myself or defend myself (like I was taught to do: βdonβt be a pushover. defend yourself.β), I get told Iβm fucking arguing and backtalking.
So fuck my life, I guess."πΌ ππ πππ ππ ππππ πΎπ ππ½π πΉπΆππππππ, πΌ'πΉ πΆπππππ π»ππππππππ π½ππ π·ππΆπππΎπ»ππ ππ½π ππππππΎππ½π πΎπ."
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TL;DR: I feel invalidated because my mom claims Iβm a liar, when in reality, I just donβt feel safe enough to tell her the truth, so now Iβm grounded from my phone and sheβs probably going to find out about my boyfriend of a month.
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@Your-Local-Ghostface-Simp im sorry bro- my mom doed the same thing but with my nail biting habit AND UR MOM TELLS U TO STAND UP FOR URSELF MY MOM SAYS WOMEN BELONG IN THE KITCHEN, SILENT (at home i go by female pronouns-)
I smell your fear.
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WILL WORK 4 MT DEW said in I feel really invalidated, and that my mom isn't letting me defend myself, and now I'm grounded.:
my mom doed the same thing but with my nail biting habit
bro me too- thatβs something Iβm trying to break too, but Iβve been doing it for nearly 10 years (iβm 16 now, so take that into account), and itβs hard. I do really good and then something happens and I pick or bite at my nails and she gets pissed when she sees it. She basically keeps guilt tripping me by showing me how infected fingers can get, or how they have to get surgery because they got fucked up too much and it pisses me off. I donβt intentionally do it.
"πΌ ππ πππ ππ ππππ πΎπ ππ½π πΉπΆππππππ, πΌ'πΉ πΆπππππ π»ππππππππ π½ππ π·ππΆπππΎπ»ππ ππ½π ππππππΎππ½π πΎπ."
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WILL WORK 4 MT DEW and whatβs even worse, is when my dad said that I just need to stop arguing, I said that I wasnβt arguing, I was telling her what I was doing and that I wasnβt lying, and then he got pissy at me for a minute.
(My mom hates lying, so she things that I was lying, so now Iβm grounded.)"πΌ ππ πππ ππ ππππ πΎπ ππ½π πΉπΆππππππ, πΌ'πΉ πΆπππππ π»ππππππππ π½ππ π·ππΆπππΎπ»ππ ππ½π ππππππΎππ½π πΎπ."
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@Your-Local-Ghostface-Simp βomigod your gonna get a infevtionβ βohmigod just stop it its not that hard!!!β BITCH IT IS THAT HARD. SHE DOESNβT UNDERSTAND CUZ SHE DOESNβT DO THAT
I smell your fear.
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@Your-Local-Ghostface-Simp said in I feel really invalidated, and that my mom isn't letting me defend myself, and now I'm grounded.:
WILL WORK 4 MT DEW and whatβs even worse, is when my dad said that I just need to stop arguing, I said that I wasnβt arguing, I was telling her what I was doing and that I wasnβt lying, and then he got pissy at me for a minute.
(My mom hates lying, so she things that I was lying, so now Iβm grounded.). . . Yup. my mom reports whatever i did to my dad. (heβs dead now but like still- with my stepmom too-)
I smell your fear.
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WILL WORK 4 MT DEW EXACTLY!
My mom grew up in a really toxic householdβher mom was an abusive narcissist, and her dad was just as bad, so it was a really toxic household, so Iβm pretty sure she picked up some of that shit from her parents, even though she claims that sheβs trying to break the trauma cycle, when sheβs not. She just keeps it going somedays, and I know that eventually Iβm probably going to need fucking therapy because of it."πΌ ππ πππ ππ ππππ πΎπ ππ½π πΉπΆππππππ, πΌ'πΉ πΆπππππ π»ππππππππ π½ππ π·ππΆπππΎπ»ππ ππ½π ππππππΎππ½π πΎπ."
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WILL WORK 4 MT DEW oh, she doesnβt report it to him, he was just there and heard everything.
"πΌ ππ πππ ππ ππππ πΎπ ππ½π πΉπΆππππππ, πΌ'πΉ πΆπππππ π»ππππππππ π½ππ π·ππΆπππΎπ»ππ ππ½π ππππππΎππ½π πΎπ."
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@Your-Local-Ghostface-Simp same. she says she tries but she never succeeds. Lowkey i used to do sh a LOT. recovering now thank goodness. but my mom fr makes me wanna crash put-
I smell your fear.
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WILL WORK 4 MT DEW out*
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@Your-Local-Ghostface-Simp Damn.
I smell your fear.
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WILL WORK 4 MT DEW Iβve never shβd, but the amount of times Iβve thought about it and then mentally hit myself because I know I have no real reason to isβ¦insane.
"πΌ ππ πππ ππ ππππ πΎπ ππ½π πΉπΆππππππ, πΌ'πΉ πΆπππππ π»ππππππππ π½ππ π·ππΆπππΎπ»ππ ππ½π ππππππΎππ½π πΎπ."
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WILL WORK 4 MT DEW sheβs legit threatened to put me in therapy when we have our arguments. I donβt need it now, but I might if she keeps this shit up, and I donβt like that idea. I donβt want to go to therapy.
"πΌ ππ πππ ππ ππππ πΎπ ππ½π πΉπΆππππππ, πΌ'πΉ πΆπππππ π»ππππππππ π½ππ π·ππΆπππΎπ»ππ ππ½π ππππππΎππ½π πΎπ."
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@Your-Local-Ghostface-Simp β¦the amunt of times where i would sit on my floor and miniaclly cry-laugh out of painβ¦(mentlly)
we both need help-I smell your fear.
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@Your-Local-Ghostface-Simp β¦mine threatened me to put me in a mental clinic and never come back. With a kn!fe to my throat.
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WILL WORK 4 MT DEW oh! CPS?
"πΌ ππ πππ ππ ππππ πΎπ ππ½π πΉπΆππππππ, πΌ'πΉ πΆπππππ π»ππππππππ π½ππ π·ππΆπππΎπ»ππ ππ½π ππππππΎππ½π πΎπ."
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WILL WORK 4 MT DEW help why is my english so broken- βminicllyβ
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WILL WORK 4 MT DEW except I canβt do that. Not safely, anyway. We have a one-floor house, and my room (because our house is so small) is the dining room. I donβt even have a door, I have a set of black-out curtains hanging up in the arch.
"πΌ ππ πππ ππ ππππ πΎπ ππ½π πΉπΆππππππ, πΌ'πΉ πΆπππππ π»ππππππππ π½ππ π·ππΆπππΎπ»ππ ππ½π ππππππΎππ½π πΎπ."
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@Your-Local-Ghostface-Simp i would but- iβm fuckinβ scared. what if i end up in a worse situation than im already in-?
